After months of procrastinating, I have finally written up the abduction of Isabella Miller-Jenkins for posting later today. The case has raised national headlines and loads of mud-slinging and ire and what have you, because Isabella’s parents were lesbian lovers who conceived her with donor sperm. Then they split up and the bio-mom started talking about how the other wasn’t really Isabella’s mom, and then she renounced her homosexuality and joined Jerry Falwell’s church and everything kind of went to hell after that. This has been going on for years and of course the biggest loser is the child.
I know I’m probably going to get a nasty email or two over my casefile for Isabella, although I’ve tried very hard not to sound partisan.
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Its sad this woman resorted to the very same tactics as all the anti gay people when she didn’t get her own way. You don’t go from being pretty much married to another woman and having a baby together to suddenly not being gay at all just naturally because you had a change of heart.
Selfish selfish selfish.
Her blatant disrespect for the law is what bothers me the most — it’s got nothing to do with her being gay, or ex-gay, or whatever. She goes around violating court orders and practically bragging about it — “oh, you won’t believe how much debt I’m in from all the fines I’ve accumulated, $25 each day I don’t let Isabella see my ex, it’s up to thousands now ” — and she has no reason for it.
Alright, if we’re all going to get nasty emails, I’ll have at it too. I have reason to get news from that area, and I’ve been reading up on this case for ages. If you ask me, neither one is fit to have this child with them. I’m getting really tired of people taking things out on their “partner” or what all, when the only person who really gets effed up is the child (or children) in question. The only reason this is getting so much press is the gay vs. convert thing.
Why do you think Janet shouldn’t have Isabella?
I just think that that much hatred or contention b/w two people is not healthy for that poor kid. I’m not trying to say anyone is the worst person on earth. I understand if everyone is trying to do their level best, but for goodness sake… s he’s been taken and her moms don’t care for each other one bit……though, point taken, I haven’t a clue who would get this girl custody wise if she was found.
From what Meaghan wrote up, Janet’s main flaw is she wasn’t smart enough to get anything in writing when they first broke up, they just had an informal agreement.
Even if she did abuse Lisa and Isabella, Lisa didn’t mention that right off when they dissolved their marriage. If she realy thought Isabella was in danger then it was her responsibility to let the judge know that at the divorce b/c if he knew it then the visiting arangement would be different. But since she waited so long that makes it pretty obvious there was no abuse.
I wish ppl would quit having kids just to have them.
Truth is truth. I agree with what you said, but I’ve seen people/couples that were together for DECADES finally allowed to marry and divorced w/in a few years. All I’m saying is everyone is human, hindsight is 20/20, and this kid is going to be messed for life, no matter who ends up with custody.
The thing is, Janet really shouldn’t have had to legally adopt Isabella. If a married couple conceived a child through a sperm donor, the husband isn’t required to legally adopt the child — he’s considered the father automatically. And, in fact, that was the final ruling by the court in the Miller-Jenkins case: that Janet was Isabella’s legal parent even if she hadn’t adopted her.
I hurt for the child. This will backfire on the bio-mom, in my opinion. Your update was very well written, and factual, and to the point. No one should run with a child, unless the child is being abused and there is no proof of it. However, as it was said previously, that should be documented the minute it is suspected!!
Just because the parents hate eachother doesn’t mean the child is going too be “effed up.” Its more likely but not true…
I just hope that the co-mother hasn’t warpped her against her other mother. 😦 I mean I think that in any relationship, gay/straight, which parent has the child’s best interests at heart. Lisa Miller clearly doesn’t have her child’s best interests at heart. Otherwise she would come out of hiding and fess up to what she’s done to alledgedly keep Isabella “safe.”
It seems to me that Lisa and Isabella would really stand out in a place like Nicaragua. They’re both lily-white and I don’t think Lisa speaks Spanish. I’m a little surprised they haven’t been found by now.
My only problem with the entry is the phrase “lesbian lovers”. How about “partners” or even “lesbian partners”.
That’s a good idea. I think I will do that.