I have updated my “About the Administrator” page on Charley with a more detailed account of my life and an up-to-date description of my interests. My pet rats, for example, have all crossed the rainbow bridge, but Michael and I have two wonderful cats now. I included a link to the blog entry that explains my weird education — no, unlike what certain people have said, I have a diploma and not a GED, thank you very much.
I also added the Christmas Eve pic I posted on here, with me holding that ridiculously adorable puppy. I really like that picture and I really like my new cut and color (although the pink is getting a little bit lighter with each hair wash, sigh). I also really like that sweater I’m wearing; it’s my favorite. I got it off Etsy in 2014, using a gift card someone gave me for my birthday. The price was $20.24 including shipping, which is an awesome deal given that it’s 100% cashmere and looked as if it had never been worn, but then I looked up the brand when it arrived and discovered cashmere sweaters from that company retail for as much as $750! But anyway…
I have also updated the “Site History” page with bits about the Facebook and Twitter accounts. (I decided to list their dates of creation as the times when they were created by other people, not the times when I took over the running of them.) And I removed the bits about the links page and the disclaimer page since those no longer exist.
I haven’t heard from Jennifer Marra in like, ten years. Sometimes I wonder if maybe she reads this blog. Facebook, at one point, had her as one of the “people you may know” and suggested I friend her, but I didn’t. Jennifer and I may have parted ways, probably forever, but she was one of the most profound influences of my life and I personally owe her a great deal, as do many other people. I think of her every day and I always make sure to mention her to reporters and stuff when they ask me about how I got into missing people and how and why I founded the Charley Project. Wherever she is, I hope she’s well and happy.
A friend of mine, not someone involved in the world of MP cases and true crime, sent me an email today to ask if I knew anything about a woman who had disappeared from her area the other day. I replied saying I didn’t really follow cases that recent, but I had Googled the missing woman and reported what I’d found. I added,
Right now the California Department of Justice’s database is classifying her as “voluntary missing,” something her family is taking issue with. I wish I could talk to them and explain that, as far as I can tell, CDOJ classifies missing persons cases pretty much at random. They’ve got a teenager listed as a “runaway juvenile” when she was witnessed jumping off the Golden Gate Bridge.
Yeah, I don’t pay too much attention to CDOJ’s “voluntary missing adult” stuff. I make up my own mind, provided I have information to work with.
Some other MP news today made me think of cases where there is a great deal of suspicion against the missing child’s parents, or the missing adult’s significant other, but not a lot of evidence pointing towards any theory.
I have researched and written about enough MP cases that I think I’m entitled to make this general observation: When the public, and perhaps the police also, have a person of interest in mind like parents or a spouse or whatever, someone close to the MP, a good indicator is to look at the person’s behavior after the disappearance. Let’s say it’s a child and there’s suspicion that the parents did it. From what I have seen, people who are innocent try to keep the case in the public eye, give interviews, put up posters, etc., even at great personal cost to themselves. They want the MP found and if they have to get crucified in the media for that to happen, that’s what they’ll do. Guilty people, on the other hand, tend to hide, desperately hoping the police and the media will shut up and go away.
This isn’t a missing persons story. But it’s certainly relevant to this blog — sexual assault is a huge factor in missing persons and in my life. And it’s a story EVERYONE should know. I know it’s a very long article, but I’m begging you: if you read nothing else I link to today, please read this story.
I’d love me some discussion about it today in the comments of this entry, if you have anything to say.
There was a photographer walking around taking pics of the event, and several people with cell phones of course. I got the Charley Project related pics at last.
My table, display set up with Marsha Loritz, who organized the event. Her mom Victoria Lynn Prokopovitz is missing.
Me at my table with Miles Superbear. Miles is a teddy bear who works for Project Jason and travels around the country meeting families of the missing. He has his own Facebook page. Miles is a real sweetheart.
In the background of this photo are members of Amber Wilde‘s family.
Me talking about the Charley Project with the nice lady from the Wisconsin Clearinghouse for Missing and Exploited Children and Adults.
Me talking to Marsha Loritz. She is such a wonderful person. Gave me a big hug when she saw me. Complimented my shirt: “You look so bright and colorful!”
Another pic of me talking to Marsha.
Me talking to one of the search and rescue dog ladies and one of the dogs she brought, a Dutch Shepherd named Riken.
I have written before about the pre-disappearance online presence of MPs. I just found another, while researching Steven Jones’s case (they’ve found the motorcycle, but not, apparently, his body). I’m quite sure that he’s the same Steven Jones who got sued six years ago because of some comments he posted on the internet. The place is right, the age is right, and my Steven Jones was apparently outspoken, just like the Steven Jones who posted the online comments.
Of course this has nothing to do with anything. I’m just throwing that tidbit out there.
Someone asked in the comments section of another blog how many cases on the Charley Project were “famous.” Regular readers of Charley and this blog will know the answer to that question already.
Four and a half years ago I wrote a blog entry on what it takes to make an MP case famous. (In a nutshell: it’s not just wealth or race; there are various other factors involved too.) I still agree with what I said in the entry, and just for kicks I thought I’d bring it up again: The media and missing people.
Given that it’s a huge missing person mystery in the news right now, I reckon some of you might be wondering why I haven’t written about Malaysia Airlines Flight 370.
The answer is that I don’t want to. I guess it’s not my “kind” of missing persons case or something. I’ve only read headlines about it. I feel deeply sorry for the families of all those people on the flight — particularly the families of the pilot and crew members — but only in an abstract way.
I saw a good editorial on Salon today and posted it on Charley’s FB page: The Malaysia mystery isn’t an episode of “Lost”. This paragraph in particular struck me:
As the drama of the flight, which disappeared on March 8, has unfolded, what began as a strange story that would surely yield evidence in a few hours has taken on a different life of its own. Because of its virtually unprecedented nature, it’s hard to know how to talk about it. Here’s a start, though. Whether you’re a newscaster or a random person with a few thoughts you want to get off your chest on Facebook, just remember that these are human lives we’re talking about here — 239 of them.
And the final lines:
It’s not an epic episode of Nancy Grace, a missing persons story with a cast of hundreds. It’s just 239 men, women and children, lost somewhere over the water.
As for me…I’ve got nothing to say.