I just read this article saying missing ten-year-old Lindsey Baum‘s mother, Melissa, is broke with no signs of that changing. Melissa apparently hasn’t worked since Lindsey disappeared last June. She took some months of unpaid leave, then asked to return to work, but only part time. She got fired instead, and applied for unemployment. She got some compensation, but now for some reason the state wants most of it back.
Meanwhile, Melissa can’t afford the rent and she and her son, Lindsey’s brother, have moved out of their former home and in with relatives. She says she can’t return to work full time because she still needs to search for Lindsey, and also her son has Asperger’s Syndrome, an autism spectrum disorder.
Melissa says the system just isn’t designed to help parents whose children are missing.
“It’s a situation that I have no control over. But at the same time, it’s not something they have precedence for. They have to go by the laws,” she said.
I have often read of parents of missing children taking substantial time off work, years sometimes, both to help with the search and because their nerves are shattered. Melissa says as much: “I was not even conscious for the first two or three weeks even. I was pretty well medicated,” she said. But everyone must eat, and bills must be paid, whether your kid is missing or not. Plus, left-behind parents want to do things like hire private detectives, and that costs money too. I wouldn’t be surprised if many families of the missing fall into financial ruin as a result.
As I noted in the comments section of an earlier entry, Jaycee Dugard’s family is broke too, and living on charity. Apparently she was paid little or nothing for the few media appearances she made, and the state will only give her $2,000 compensation.
I’m a little late — like ten days late — but I just found a People magazine article about Jaycee Dugard’s diary that she kept in captivity. From the little that has been released, it shows (unsurprisingly) that she remained under extreme strain even more than a decade after she was taken. The prosecution hopes to get a restraining order prohibiting the Garridos or their lawyers from contacting Jaycee and her daughters. Jaycee is receiving therapy, and the latter article link says she’s trying to distance herself from Garrido by, for instance, choosing new names for her children to replace the ones Garrido picked. This would have the added benefit of making the children less easy to identify. There can’t be that many kids out there named Starlit Dugard or Starlit Garrido.
It’s really the children I feel the most sorry for. They knew no other life before the sham was exposed, and Garrido, monster that he is, is their father and they must have a lot of conflicting feelings about him. It sounds like Jaycee has a good, supportive, sensible family and support network. I only hope all three young women are able to rise above this and somehow lead normal lives.
The NY Times has the court filing linked here.
…current pictures of Jaycee Dugard have appeared in People magazine. She has grown into a beautiful young woman. I think it looks pretty close to her age-progression picture, except for the hair obviously. A lot of kids with light blonde hair have their hair turn brown when they grow up. I did, I think. I’ve been coloring my hair since I was ten but I believe it’s naturally light brown now.
I hope people don’t bother Jaycee if they recognize her on the street or whatever from the magazine photos. I know she is living very quietly in an undisclosed location, but presumably she’s not hiding in her hotel all the time.
This is old news, a month and a day old in fact, but I thought I’d post about this interview Shawn Hornbeck gave to People magazine about Jaycee Dugard. He says she was undoubtedly brainwashed and will need a great deal of therapy and should move on from the attack — pretty obvious. It sounds like Shawn is doing well, and I’m glad to hear that. He has such a nice smile.
I found this article saying Jaycee is scheduled to be interviewed on the Oprah Winfrey Show in December. Maybe I could somehow find a way to watch it. I would have to borrow someone else’s TV. Anyway, it says she’s getting paid a million dollars for this.
I don’t think I would do it, if I were her — it seems like such a big famous TV appearance would mess up her life even more. But I’m not her.
According to the New York Daily News, Jaycee Dugard is demanding that the powers that be turn over all the pets she had living with Garrido: “five cats, two dogs, three cockatiels, a pigeon and a mouse.” I sure hope the Dugard family has room for them all! But I suppose if they don’t, there will be donations. I hope local veterinarians will help out too.
One comment from a reader: if she’s thinking about missing her pets, this chick has mental problems. I guarantee it. Someone that is truly grateful for their release wouldn’t give a rats *** about pet animals–things that gave pleasure in a bad situation. The pleasure derived from the pets during her captivity should now be zeroed out by the pleasure of her return to her family. If she’s longing her old pets, she’s not happy now. She obviously can’t say “I sure do want to go back to my old life,” so her mind goes to the closest thing . . . the pets. By asking for them, she knows she won’t appear to be a crazy like if she asked to go back.
I think this person must have never owned a pet of any kind. I think it’s perfectly all right for Jaycee to want her animals — both because they are comforting to her and because they are better off being cared for by their human than by strangers. I wouldn’t be surprised if Jaycee wasn’t entirely happy, though. This is such a huge change for her — again — and she has a whole bunch of new things to think/worry about.
… you make the news in Ethiopia. Jaycee Dugard has.
I found this very sensible editorial pointing out just how uncommon cases like Jaycee’s are, and saying we need to focus more attention on the victims of parental abduction, who tend to suffer a great deal of psychological trauma even if they’re not physically harmed. (Case in point: poor Richard Chekevdia was held in a tiny room for two years and never let outside after his mom abducted him.) Of course instances like the Dugard case are much more shocking and titillating to the public. But if the public knew the truth about parental abduction and the harm it causes, they would probably be shocked.
Jaycee’s hometown threw a parade to celebrate her rescue. 2,000 people showed up. She wasn’t around to see it, though. She’s hiding out with her mom and kids, presumably getting reconnected. I actually wouldn’t be surprised if she went on to lead a more or less normal life. Most of the survivors of concentration camps did okay afterwards, marrying again, getting jobs, having more kids, etc.
Jaycee Dugard really HAS been found — albeit living in horrific circumstances. Her abductor, a convicted rapist named Phillip Garrido, along with his wife, Nancy, kept Jaycee locked up in a shed in the backyard. She gave birth to two daughters during her time in captivity. They are now 11 and 15 years old and were also raised in the shed. It’s like something out of a bad movie — or the Elizabeth Scott novel Living Dead Girl, which is about a teenage girl who was kidnapped by a man when she was a child and has been forced to be his live-in rape victim ever since. Jaycee and the children are in good physical health apparently, but mentally it’s got to be another story altogether. That poor woman. Those poor kids.
I hope there will be an outpouring from the community like there was with Shasta Groene, and Jaycee and her kids will get the therapy they need and be able to set up a new life for themselves. The kids have never been to school. It wouldn’t surprise me if they too were sexually violated by Garrido.
On the bright side…Jaycee is ALIVE! Who would have thought? I certainly never believed this was a possibility. I believe the longest known time a child was held captive in a stranger abduction case is nine years. Well, Jaycee has DOUBLED that record, and it gives new hope for all the other children out there who have been missing for decades.
She and the kids are young yet. I only hope they can salvage their lives.
…just in case, it looks like Jaycee Dugard may have been found alive and well. A woman walked into a police station claiming to be her, anyway, and the police say they have two suspects in custody and will disclose more at a press conference today. If this is true, then Jaycee, who was abducted in 1991, sets a new record for the longest time a stranger abducted child lived in captivity.
I refer you to the Google news search for more.