Not all forgetting is bad

I was raped on June 16, 2009. I was beaten, choked, held against my will for two hours, and during that time sexually assaulted. It was horrific.

I’ve written about this online before, starting right happened and then through the investigative process and recovery. It was pretty awful. The entire month of June would be ruined, every year, for quite a few years. And even after the horror of it started to fade, it would still hit me sometimes. A scene in a movie. A face in a crowd. And then the whole experience would slam into me.

After the man who did it was deported to Sudan and the story finally felt over, things improved. I stopped thinking about it so much.

And the other day, I was looking at the calendar, and suddenly thought, “The anniversary of the attack. I missed it. I forgot. Cool.”

Three cheers to forgetting.

12 thoughts on “Not all forgetting is bad

  1. Shari July 1, 2022 / 9:16 pm

    Forgetting is part of healing. Glad you have a happy life now.

  2. Christian Underkofler July 1, 2022 / 11:02 pm

    Why was he deported and not imprisoned here?

    Sent from my iPhone


    • Meaghan July 1, 2022 / 11:03 pm

      He was imprisoned actually. Just not for very long. And after that they deported him as an undesirable.

      • laurenthian July 4, 2022 / 8:53 am

        Very proud of you!

        (I meant to comment this separately)

  3. Luann Miller July 2, 2022 / 1:55 am

    You are a strong brave woman and I admire you.

  4. Christie M Groves July 2, 2022 / 1:53 pm


  5. Nearer July 3, 2022 / 2:43 am


  6. Cid July 4, 2022 / 5:50 am

    I get it. Well done on your healing process.

  7. Sonya July 5, 2022 / 3:21 am

    I’m glad the date went by without you remembering. Nobody should have to go through so much. Good for you!

  8. misa July 12, 2022 / 7:14 am

    how dare he! let’s hack him.

  9. Brittany July 13, 2022 / 10:32 pm

    Cheers to minimizing the bandwidth he occupied in your life! 💙

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