RIP, Arthur

So I was going through missing persons Facebook groups this afternoon and to my shock spotted an old poster for a guy I used to know. He went missing in 2018.

We had “met” online in the late 1990s, when we connected randomly on AOL Instant Messenger, a chat program. I met a lot of people on there, including some I’m still friends with today. Both of us were in our teens, him a few years older than me. We were never super close but did talk regularly on AOL Instant Messenger for years. He was a good guy.

Over the years we drifted out of touch, talking less and less often. I think we last spoke sometime around 2006 or so. He seemed pretty content with his life the last time we spoke.

I had had no idea he had gone missing. He’s not missing anymore though. I looked him up and discovered he had only been missing for three months before they found his body. Suicide.

I felt pretty sad about it, though over a decade had passed since we had talked last and I don’t know what he was dealing with when he took his life. I really wish it hadn’t come to this.

9 thoughts on “RIP, Arthur

  1. Alexis February 26, 2020 / 9:46 pm

    Very sad. I’m sorry for your loss. Suicide is a big problem where I live Too. I once talked with a professional anti suicide speaker who said that he has noted a strong correlation to social media and suicide. People aren’t developing deep relationships with people around them but instead delving into a world of social media where everyones life always looks perfect. They feel all alone. And kids committing suicide are getting younger too as a result of online bullying. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy social media but I think we need a healthy balance. I was just reading about a couple in remote Alaska, the Bealers I believe, who left suicide notes at their cabin and stated they chose to take their life due to deteriorating health of the wife and they took great care to make sure their bodies weren’t found. I can respect that because they did leave a note so their friends and family had answers.

  2. Randy McDonald February 27, 2020 / 12:12 am

    I am sorry for your loss. We are all diminished by these.

  3. Doris February 27, 2020 / 12:18 am

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and his family.

  4. rottimom February 27, 2020 / 9:56 am

    I’m sorry for your loss, Meaghan. You are such a caring person.

  5. Christie Groves (TheDoePatrol) February 27, 2020 / 11:39 am

    Agh Sorry, RIP friend.

  6. Sonya February 27, 2020 / 11:26 pm

    Sorry you lost your friend. Even when we lose touch with friends, they still have a place in our hearts, and it is always sad hearing they passed away, especially if it’s a suicide. ❤

  7. Ivana Lucy March 3, 2020 / 6:10 pm

    I am very sorry for your loss Meaghan. @Alexis, there is no common cause for suicide, I am from Balkans and rates here are very high due to the PTSD from Balkan wars in 90s. It has nothing to do with social networks.

    • doc March 8, 2020 / 6:17 pm

      Just 50 yards, too, from where his Jeep had been found last August.

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