September 11 thoughts

Of course everyone is talking about 9/11 today. I’ve thought about it myself but I’ve thought more about my brother Brendan, whose fiftieth birthday would have been today. He died in a horrible accident in February.

I asked my mom if she wanted to hang out with her or whatever today. She said she was in Michigan so no can do. How she managed not to fall all to pieces after losing a SECOND child, I don’t know.

I hope his sons are doing okay, and his widow. I’ve only seen them once since the funeral.

I wish this all had not happened. If one of us had to die it should have been one who didn’t have kids that were still young. But it did happen and there’s nothing for it but to deal and move on.

7 thoughts on “September 11 thoughts

  1. Leslie Tollefson September 11, 2018 / 9:06 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss, Meghan. I can’t imagine how tough this is on your family and his widow and kids. My sister turned 50 today. I’ll give her an extra hug for your bro.

  2. whereaboutsstillunknown September 11, 2018 / 10:36 pm

    I’m sorry about your brother. 😦

    I found myself thinking about Sneha Phillip today. What are your thoughts on her case?

    Personally I don’t think she was in the towers, but I think it’s unlikely that she left voluntarily. Just my opinion, of course.

    • Meaghan September 12, 2018 / 8:02 am

      I really don’t have a clue what happened to her, but I don’t think she left voluntarily either. If she was a victim of foul play, certainly that would have been easy to cover up in the ensuing chaos.

  3. MaryJo Miegoc September 12, 2018 / 1:28 am

    My thoughts are with you, Meaghan. *hugs* what a beautiful gesture to plant a tree in someone’s honor ❤

    • Meaghan September 12, 2018 / 8:03 am

      I think his friend planted it. I agree it’s a wonderful gesture, particularly as Brendan loved the outdoors, and I love the marker.

  4. Sonya September 12, 2018 / 2:06 am

    Your brother had a beautiful smile. I am sorry for your loss.

  5. Stacy September 12, 2018 / 4:07 pm

    I am so sorry for your loss, Meaghan. I also lost my big brother suddenly 16 years ago. There is not as much talk, focus or support for loss of sibling in our society as there is for loss of spouse or child. Loosing a sibling is a severe and unique loss, different from all other losses. You lose someone who shared your secrets and childhood memories, someone who knew you longer than most, and someone you expected to be there until old age. It is void that is felt deeply again and again as you witness your parents grief and you have children they will never know. Finally, you miss them deeply later when you care for your elderly parents without their presence. . Yes, I believe it is a loss with many layers that leaves a hole in your family forever. And, the topic is not irrelevant on this website because there are many stories here of siblings still searching for long missing brothers and sisters.

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