Guest column

A week and a half ago, after the Cosby verdict was rendered, I read some absolutely vile stuff in the Facebook comments of articles on the subject. A lot of people calling his victims whores and liars and gold-diggers and saying if there was any truth to the allegations they would have come forward immediately and not waited. I called Dad and told him that if anybody said such things to him, he should tell them about the horrible things people said about me after I was raped.

Long-time readers of this blog will know the story: on June 16, 2009, I was on vacation in Virginia when I got lost and a stranger offered to walk me back to my friend’s place where I was staying and instead he took me out into the woods and beat me and choked me and raped me.

I blogged about it a few days later and was almost immediately attacked by jerks saying I was a liar. For the next month or so, as I was struggling to come to terms with what happened, I was also having to deal with the aforementioned jerks posting crap in the comments section of my blog. You read my entries in this category.

So I told Dad this, and he suggested I write a letter to the editor about it. I had previously written to the Lima News about gun control. So I thought Dad’s idea was a good one and I wrote another letter and sent it to them last Monday.

It turns out this letter was about twice as long as letters to the editor should be, but they wanted to print it anyway — as a “guest column” rather than a letter to the editor. The guy I spoke to on the phone was very nice. He said he was sorry such an awful thing had happened to me, and that guest columnists usually have their picture printed but given the subject matter if I didn’t want my picture in the paper he would understand.

Naturally I said a picture would be okay. The letter was published on their website last night, and in this morning’s paper. My dad is very proud. You can read it at this link or check out a picture of the newspaper below:


Nothing much else has happened. Today I am playing driver, errand girl and nursemaid to Michael, who has had an extraction and a filling at the dentist’s. In a bit I’ll be running out to get his prescription at the pharmacy and also pudding and jello for him to eat tonight. Gotta be a good house-girlfriend, as I’m not much good for anything else.

7 thoughts on “Guest column

  1. Christie M Groves May 8, 2018 / 6:07 pm

    Holy cow, I guess I knew you had been victimized but I didn’t realize it was less than ten years ago, not that time matters in this type of thing but for some reason I thought you meant when you were 15 and had healed so graciously over the time, I don’t think I could function had this happened to me. I am so sorry this transpired in your life. Thank you for the article on Cosby I will read it now… xo

    • Meaghan May 8, 2018 / 7:46 pm

      Trust me, I had my fair share of hysterical 3 a.m. calls to my mom, crying, screaming, throwing things, refusing to eat, etc. It was very hard to deal with and I suffered just as much as anyone else would have in that situation. The fact that I’ve healed as well as I have can largely be put down to luck.

  2. zinc May 8, 2018 / 6:48 pm

    Meaghan, you’ve got some rock solid fortitude. Thank you for the way you keep turning your challenges and sorrows into tools to help others. Be proud of the value you add to the world.

  3. Saltyprior May 8, 2018 / 9:41 pm

    Thank you Meaghan ☀️

  4. Rose V May 8, 2018 / 10:35 pm

    Meaghan, I just read your article and I am amazed at your strength. It is very sad how “friends” can be so critical and mean at a time in your life when you were a victim of such a violent crime. You are so strong and I hope your work brings you peace! You are awesome!

  5. Diamond Lil May 9, 2018 / 8:22 am

    Brava Meaghan!

    (hope Michael will be on the mend soon)

  6. LB May 11, 2018 / 6:37 am

    Great article, this and MeToo are a wake up calls to a society that often shuts down and villify sexual assault survivors. A friend of mine was raped decades ago by an acquaintance; when she told friends and family about what happened, she was told that her accusations were “bizarre”,
    “attention seeking” and “that’s what you get for being tall and attractive”. I think some rape apologism/victim blaming is rooted in fear and an attempt to ward off violence in their own lives – the erroneous belief that if you behave/dress/socialize in certain ways and avoid certain environments, you’ll somehow be immune from being harmed by a violent individual.

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