A death in the family

So yesterday morning one of my brothers, Brendan, was killed in an accident at work. He was 49. There’s an article about it here.

Just a few days ago a regular commenter on this blog lost her brother unexpectedly and I was trying to think of something I could do to help. And now we are in the same boat.

Everyone on Facebook and stuff is saying “sorry for YOUR loss” but the loss wasn’t really mine. We were so far apart in age and weren’t close.

The horror and sorrow I feel is for Brendan’s three boys, who lost their oldest brother two years ago and are now without a father. The youngest one is thirteen or so, the oldest in his early twenties. And I am very sorry for our parents, the more so because this is the second time they will have to bury a son. I had another brother who was killed in a car wreck in 1988.

Brendan was a hard worker and a wonderful father. He liked working with his hands and was skilled in all the manner of mechanical things. He had a responsible job with the city utilities or something like that.

Though we weren’t close I remember him doing some pretty cool big-brother things. Once when I was about fourteen, he invited me to take his motorcycle for a spin around his property. I had never ridden on a motorcycle in my life. Of course the inevitable happened and he just assessed the damage, made sure I wasn’t hurt, and shrugged. He wasn’t mad at me, presumably realizing this was really kind of his fault. He was pretty chill like that.

Yeah. So this just really sucks.

Hold onto your loved ones tight because you never know when tragedy might strike.

6 thoughts on “A death in the family

  1. christie February 16, 2018 / 9:21 am

    Hang in there Meaghan, I know from loss a few one things we keep going on, never get over it, time just helps a bit to relieve the pain. Thinking you the boys and sending good thoughts their way.

  2. Catherine February 16, 2018 / 9:47 pm

    My god. Although you were not close, I am still so very sorry for you, your parents, and the family he left. What a very terrible thing. I will be thinking of him.

  3. Sara February 16, 2018 / 11:40 pm

    So sorry to hear your family has experienced this sudden loss. Sending my condolences to all of you.

  4. Lauren February 17, 2018 / 3:07 am

    I am so sorry Meaghan. Your family is in my thoughts.

  5. Diamond Lil February 17, 2018 / 11:54 pm

    My condolences to all in your family as well as his colleagues and friends. May they have comfort in the memories he leaves with each of them.

  6. Dan Standish February 18, 2018 / 12:51 am

    Our thoughts and condolences are with you Meaghan as well as
    your family

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