Feeling a bit better today

I’m not so tired today, but I am still experiencing side effects from the increased dose of medication. I’m having trouble walking in a straight line. I haven’t fallen over or even lost my balance or anything like that, and I’m able to get to where I want to go, but it’s more of a C-shaped route than a straight here-to-there. I keep bumping into walls and doorways and furniture because of this.

It could be a lot worse, though. My body always takes a few days to adjust to medicine changes, and when I STARTED taking this particular medicine a year ago, I was shaking so bad it scared people. I couldn’t even eat properly because I couldn’t use a knife and fork and spoon; I kept dropping them. I couldn’t hold a glass to my lips to drink because my hands shook so bad I spilled it everywhere (and I usually dropped the glass too). It took like half an hour to write a very short blog entry explaining why I wasn’t get anything done, because the medicine made it so difficult to type. But I was patient, and eventually all that disappeared.

Compared to last year, these side effects are nothing. And I expect that within another few things I’ll be back to normal.

Anyhoo, I’ve been running cases through Newspapers.com and seeing what I can find. So far, not much, but what I HAVE dug up is pretty interesting. I’m also looking at those “have you seen these missing children?” newspaper pages they used to have in the eighties. It’s ludicrously inefficient but I was able to get one small but significant distinguishing characteristic for Taj Narbonne. You’ll see.

Oh, and I’ve got two cases to write resolved cases for, and eight cases to purge. And the day’s not over yet.

See y’all later.



11 thoughts on “Feeling a bit better today

    • diamondlil16 September 21, 2016 / 11:25 pm

      Thanks Natalie for this new update on Jessica’s case. Been following that since the beginning.

      Hang in there Meaghan.

    • Meaghan September 21, 2016 / 8:28 pm

      Wow. I wondered if they were EVER going to solve that case. This UID case AND Jacob Wetterling in the same month. w00t!

      • Meaghan September 22, 2016 / 2:25 pm

        Sorry, I posted a reply that was supposed to be an answer to a reply below about Taj’s teeth. My bad. I will delete it pronto.

  1. Melinda September 22, 2016 / 10:41 am

    Hi Meaghan…glad that you’re doing better. Health issues suck! About Taj Narbonne, the detail you’re referring to, is it his teeth being decayed? I never noticed that before.

    That could also point to him being neglected before he went missing. His case is another one that makes me sad because I was also an unwanted stepchild.

    • Meaghan September 22, 2016 / 2:22 pm

      I tried to reply to this on my Kindle Fire just when I was almost done it went kaput. Yes, teeth decay in young children can an indication of child/abuse neglect, but it can have other reasons:

      1. The parents child’s parents, either were not taught how to make nutritious meals for their (like, say, their own parents were like that, or they grew up in foster homes or the like), or they’re working very long hours to support their kids and just are just so exhausted they am not up to cooking a proper meal when they get home.
      2. I have heard that food stamps basically among to like $5 per person per day. It would be VERY hard to a diet to stop a person being hungry all the time, nevermindd on such a small amount of money.
      3. Futhermore, in some states — I’m know sure if it’s a national thing or not — if you receive both food stamps and cash public assistance, they count out how much money they’re giving you in the form of food stamps and omit the same amount from your cash assistance. Which sucks, because food stamps can’t buy necessities such as, say, diapers, menstrual products, toothpaste, band-aids and other supplies for minor medical mishaps, bathroom and dish soap, etc. I have an Ohio friend who was talking about that, how he got a letter saying “since you are now getting food stamps, we’re reducing your other benefits by X much.” (For example: I have a friend has three disabled sons between the ages of 6 and 16, I think. The younger two are attending a special school doing well and will probably be able to transition to regular school, graduate high school and live on their won someday. But the oldest child has really bad medical issues and even worse mental problems. He’s actively psychotic most of the time in spite of taking a bunch of heavy-duty psychotropic medications. The boy is a danger to himself — particularly as he’s getting older and bigger and it’s harder for his parents to keep him from harming himself and breaking stuff and so on. He requires more or less constant supervision, and his doctors say there’s nothing more they can do and he’s just going to keep deteriorating from on out. His condition is so bad that he hasn’t been in school for like six months — he can’t even make progress with a self-contained class for children with disabilities, or an at-home home tutor, so they’ve just kind of given up. His school district, in accordance with his parents, has pretty much given up as far as trying to teaching him math and reading and stuff; according to the psychosocial evaluations he’s been getting several times, his IQ is actually dropping. The children’s mother lives at home, but also has physical serious health issues and isn’t capable of looking after the kids, so it’s up to Dad, meaning he can’t work. Which leaves Dad — and looking after his oldest son is a full-time job)
      4. Getting back diets — sorry, I keep wandering off track here — the kid himself (let’s just say “he” to simplify things) might be eating sugary snacks behind his parents’ back and not be brushing his teeth as regularly as he should, which would of course cause decay.
      5.And noooww…. there’s the tragic issue of dental care as it is in this country. In many places, particularly rural areas, there a shortage of dentists, and there aren’t a lot of college grads who want to sign up for dental school anymore. After all, dentistry requires many years of expensive training and education. which means having to pay back student loans (in the tens, sometimes the hundreds of thousands of dollars), and dentists don’t get either the pay or the prestige that medial doctors do. A lot of private insurers don’t have dental coverage as part of their medical plans, and in some states Medicaid doesn’t cover dental issues either. Though they totally should, because it’s common sense. Dental health plays an important role in overall body health.

      And here’s a true story about how lack of dental care can lead to terrible consequences. (And I know, I’m kind of babbling right now. If you don’t read about this, you can just stop reading here:


      (This happened in like 2011 or 2012, that is around five years ago, and I heard it like second-hand from my dad who read a feature article about it, my memory is bit fuzzy and I have probably gotten some details wrong, My dad read about this all in a feature-length article on the case. He reads respectable news publications and not garbage so I believe what he tells me if he says he saw it in the news. But even if I got some parts wrong after these 4-5 years, the substance of the story is correct. I’m going for it. Read it and weep…for some of you, literally._

      There was a single mother and her son, who was like ten or twelve, who lived in one of the Deep South states, Mississippi or Alabama or something. They lived a;pme together in a very rural area, even more so so the the place I grew up im/ The kind of place where your nearest neighbor was miles away. There were. like, 30 dentists within a 50-mile radius or so.

      Anyway, the son developed a toothache and, like any good parent, the boy’s Mom sought out dental care. I’m not sure he’d ever been to a dentist before in his life, but he hadn’t really needed to — his teeth had always been in good shape before. I don’t know whether uninsured or if the kid had Medicaid, in any case it didn’t matter. Many dentists, and doctors too, refuse to accept patients on Medicaid before private insurance reimburses at a much higher rate.

      In fact, I’ve heard — I’m not sure whether this is true or not, frankly it seems unlikely to me — that Medicaid only pays medical practitioners about 1/3rd of the cost it takes to treat the patient, and so they not only they make no profit, but they have to eat the remaining 2/3rds of the cost. Again, though, I’m not sure if that’s true, because the person who told me that is an ultra-libertarian and thinks government programs of any kind are evil and I’ve caught her multiple times making up stories about terrible/incompetent things the government has supposedly done. (Not trying to bash libertarians here.I just mean that since she’s lied to me on several occasions, I don’t really take her word on things anymore.)

      So, in any case, none of the dentists Mom consulted was wiling to see her son, not even for a consultation. Days passed. The toothache god worse and his face swelled up. Finally, not on knowing what to do, Mom took him to ER. It turned out he had an abscess in his cheek. The doctors there drained the abscess and gave him painkillers and some antibiotics, but they Mom there was nothing else they could do and the hospital wasn’t designed to treat tooth problems.

      If if the patient — remember, he was a child — had gotten treatment promptly, it probably would have been just a matter of just filling the tooth cavity, or maybe pulling it altogether, and cleaning the rest of his teeth and sending him home. But because there had been no treatment things had gotten much worse and he needed serious, skilled, dental work with multiple visits and possibly oral surgery as well. which would have cost a fortune of course.

      Finally Mom found a dentists who was willing to treat her son. She got an appointment for like one day or two days from then. But he lived all the way across the state, hundreds of miles, and Mom couldn’t afford either the gas or being able to take time off of work minimum-wage job to take her son there. She had to borrow money from friends and family.

      And… it was too late. The day before the scheduled appointment, or maybe it the morning of that day, that little boy died. The abscess in his tooth/cheek, which the ER people had drained, came back with a vengeance, busted through into his brain and killed him. (This, incidentally, is why medical people take sinus infections and ear infections so seriously — because they’re so close to your brain that they could break through fairly easily and cause meningitis and then you’r really screwed.)

      A little boy died of a TOOTHACHE, for crying out loud. And it was for the sole reason that his mother couldn’t afford dental care for him. You can’t say she didn’t try her best.

      In this richest country in the world, this kind of thing should not be happening.


  2. hennylee September 22, 2016 / 12:11 pm

    Glad you are feeling a bit better! ❤

  3. Kat September 22, 2016 / 2:44 pm

    On the dentist thing, you also have the case of my neighbours across the street, which is the reason of “parents just don’t give a **** and as long as the kids stay out of their way so they can watch tv and be on their phones, life is good”. I babysat this kid till I physically couldn’t anymore, and the parental supervision is nil.

    • Meaghan September 22, 2016 / 5:21 pm

      http://www.charleyproject.org/cases/l/lunsford_aliayah.html Aaliayah Lunsford’s siblings were removed from her family’s home by CPS shortly after the little girl disappeared. There were four at home at time, and were between between nine months to eleven years old. Aaliayah’s mom subsequently gave birth to twins, and those were taken as well. Last I heard she had nine children altogether. Parental rights have been terminated for both Mom and Dad, in part because,the children had irreversible tooth decay.

      My guess — and this is just a theory, mind — is the tooth thing was just an excuse and they were looking for any reason they could to keep the kids away from their parents.

  4. whereaboutsstillunknown September 22, 2016 / 11:58 pm

    Just another potential explanation for the dental stuff. Some people just get stuck with bad teeth. I unfortunately was one of them. I say “was” because I finally got tired of it and I have implants now. But as a child, I did receive regular dental care, but it didn’t prevent a few of my teeth from growing at an odd angle. It was painful because they were pushing against other teeth. It also meant I couldn’t get a brush or even floss in there. I had adult teeth coming in while my baby teeth were still there. I had a tooth crack way above the gum line and had to have surgery. Some of us are just cursed lol

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