Reading Rogelio Cerda’s sister’s blog

I’ve spent some time going over Rogelio Cerda‘s sister’s blog about her missing brother, which has a lot of information about him and pictures that I plan to add to his casefile. She believes he didn’t drown the day he disappeared in 1975 and he might have run away and might still be alive. I’m torn between thinking she’s being a tad overoptimistic and thinking there just might be something to her theory. There were a lot of reported sightings of Rogelio in the local area after his disappearance — sightings by people who knew him — and a lot of strange phone calls to the family. At least, I’m going to change his category from “Lost/Injured Missing” to “Endangered Missing.”

According to his sister, his birth name is actually Jesus Rogelio Realme Cerda, though apparently nobody called him Jesus at all: it was either Rogelio or Roger or Junior (since their father was also called Rogelio). He attended Catholic high schools in San Antonio and was an about-to-be sophomore when he disappeared.

Whether Rogelio left intentionally or not, his disappearance had a devastating effect on the family. His father took his own life less than two years later, and I’m sure the disappearance and/or death of his only son contributed to that.

4 thoughts on “Reading Rogelio Cerda’s sister’s blog

  1. Bobby January 12, 2016 / 12:52 am

    I feel absolutely terrible for Rogelio’s sister Cindy and their mother. The disappearance and subsequent suicide must be torture even to this day. Nonetheless, I tend to believe that this is just the family’s —namely Cindy’s—inability to accept the fact that Rogelio probably did drown that day. Notice that she writes it as if she’s talking directly to him. I think the blog, which seems to be mostly her own personal musings and memories about her brother, is the only way she knows how to cope. I get the impression that she believes that Rogelio’s girlfriend Betty and some of the other people on the trip that day were complicit in helping him run away. She even takes what I perceive to be a passive aggressive jab at Betty when she talks about a debut (likely a quinceañera) that her brother was in:

    “You stood in a debut in May of 1975 (and Betty allowed you to stand with her?-it’s no wonder, though, since she married the guy I saw her with, David Ramos, just as soon as you disappeared, in his white car at Woodlawn park and she is now Betty J. Ramos) and it was one that I will never forget. The girl you stood with, Carolina, was very nice and she looked so pretty in her dress. There was a live band and the song “Dance with me” was popular and was played that night. To this day, when mom hears that song, it takes her back. I believe you took mom out to the dance floor to dance with her and she just loved it. Now, if you could just do that one more time, take her by the hand and lead her to the dance floor… it’s never too late for a mother waiting to see her only son once again.”

    My question is this: what exactly was Betty supposed to do? Never date or marry in the hopes that Rogelio might turn up one day? Personally, I think Betty more than likely knew that Rogelio died in a tragic water accident and had to go on with her life. I even did a little research and found out that David and Betty married November 22, 1978, hardly “just as soon as you [Rogelio] disappeared”. Perhaps Betty began dating David shortly after the disappearance and that’s what Cindy was bothered by, but in reality, that’s none of her or her parents’ business.

    Again, I think this is a family torn apart by tragedy and my heart goes out to them. But I think Cindy is seeing and remembering what she wants to see and remember.

  2. Bobby January 12, 2016 / 2:04 pm

    As badly as I feel for the family for losing both a son and a father in a short period of time, I think they — namely the sister Cindy — is in heavy denial. I think the blog, which is really just her memories and musings about Rogelio written as if she’s talking directly to him, is the only way Cindy knows how to cope. I get the impression she thinks that Rogelio’s girlfriend Betty and some of the others on the trip that day were complicit in helping him run away. Cindy even takes what I perceive to be a passive-aggressive jab at Betty when she talks about a debut (likely a quinceañera) that her brother stood in:

    “You stood in a debut in May of 1975 (and Betty allowed you to stand with her?-it’s no wonder, though, since she married the guy I saw her with, David Ramos, just as soon as you disappeared, in his white car at Woodlawn park and she is now Betty J. Ramos) and it was one that I will never forget. The girl you stood with, Carolina, was very nice and she looked so pretty in her dress. There was a live band and the song “Dance with me” was popular and was played that night. To this day, when mom hears that song, it takes her back. I believe you took mom out to the dance floor to dance with her and she just loved it. Now, if you could just do that one more time, take her by the hand and lead her to the dance floor… it’s never too late for a mother waiting to see her only son once again.”

    I gather that Cindy believes that Betty was somewhat unfaithful for going with another boy after Rogelio vanished. Well, what else was Betty supposed to do? Never date or marry in the hopes that Rogelio might show up? In all likelihood, Betty knew Rogelio drowned that day since she was there and she knew he wasn’t coming back. That had to have been a traumatic experience for her, but she had to go on with her life. I even looked up when David and Betty got married. They married three years later on November 22, 1978, hardly right after Rogelio disappeared. They may have started dating shortly after the disappearance, but that’s not really Cindy or her parents’ business.

    I feel truly terrible for the Cerda family, but I think Cindy is seeing and remembering what she wants to.

  3. Cindy January 20, 2016 / 7:49 pm

    Good feedback. Although you are incorrect about Betty meeting David after my brother disappeared. We all went to the same school and they, all three of them along with Ana Ayala, all knew each other from school. There is a mystery here because and as you also read, my brother actually did tell my cousin he was running away. A mysterious orchestration of his disappearance occurred and he had some help in it. There is no doubt about that.

    • Debbie June 11, 2017 / 9:48 pm

      Cindy, Dr. Derrick at Harris County forensic Science Institute would like to speak to you about submitting DNA for reference of unidentified remains. 832) 927-5000 Leave message.

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