Select It Sunday: Arkadiy Tashman

This week’s selection is by B.: Arkadiy Tashman, a Russian immigrant skater boy who vanished under very mysterious circumstances ten years ago in January. He left behind a very distressing note: “Sorry about this. No wake, no funeral.” But if Arkadiy took his own life, where’s the body?

What’s, in a way, even more distressing than that note, is something noted in his casefile: “His parents notified police immediately [after finding the note], but for unknown reasons authorities did not begin an official search for Arkadiy for six days.”


Note nevertheless, his family doesn’t believe he committed suicide. I hope not. In situations like this families are often the last people to know when a person is in that kind of condition.

3 thoughts on “Select It Sunday: Arkadiy Tashman

  1. Elena April 26, 2015 / 2:38 pm

    Was that note written in English or in Russian? If the latter, I would like to see the original. Sometimes subtleties are lost in translation. From the note though, it sure sounds like he took his own life. The family usually does not believe it because they will have to look at themselves and realize that they may have contributed to his condition.

    • Meaghan April 27, 2015 / 9:25 am

      That is a very good question, Elena. I wish I knew the answer.

    • Angie April 28, 2015 / 12:29 pm

      I don’t think the family is in denial because of potentially having contributed to his depression…I think they are in denial because they don’t want to give up hope that he might be alive. Also, they truly may not have realized he was depressed…perhaps he was one of those people who was very good at hiding his emotions. There are many times when people commit suicide and it comes as a shock to their loved ones. Especially because it is sometimes difficult to distinguish between “teen angst” and mental illness.

      The onset of depression usually occurs during adolescence and the recent breakup was likely an exacerbating factor. I know it’s kind of fashionable these days to blame parents for every problem their kids ever have in their lives, but that doesn’t mean you have to jump to blaming them when there’s plenty of other possible causes of his depression.

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