12 thoughts on “Trudy Appleby’s mother killed in car accident

    • Mion October 14, 2014 / 6:00 am

      Really goes to show you that you should never give up hope that a case will be solved, no matter how much time passes.

      I’m always frustrated by these types of cases, though. Is it REALLY that hard to just leave a note saying ”I’m choosing to walk away, please don’t worry and don’t try to contact me”? Or walk into a police station with your identification and ask that your case be closed because you’re missing voluntarily?

      It’s just such a waste of time and police resources, not to mention you’re putting your family through decades of pain and wondering what happened to you. I can understand if you’re doing it because your life is in danger or your family is extremely abusive, but, in all other scenarios, there’s really no excuse. It’s just so inconsiderate and selfish, because the hours LE spent looking for this guy could have been spent searching for someone who is actually missing as the result of foul play.

      Nonetheless, I’m glad he’s alive and apparently doing well.

      • Kat October 14, 2014 / 8:40 pm

        Agreed 100%. I’ve always felt like that. Resources wasted. The one that has burned my buns for quite a while was, and I can’t remember the names exactly, the couple that ran off decades ago (his or her name was Raines) and when found wanted zip to do with the families, kids left behind and then wanted privacy. I mean, bully they were still together after so long but what about the pain and issues put upon those who had no choice in the matter? It just makes me mad. Just call up and say you are missing by choice and let the world move on. There will never be answers, but there will be the option of LE to focus on other cases.

      • Meaghan October 15, 2014 / 9:58 am

        I agree with you Mion — walking out of your life without so much as a goodbye note seems incredibly selfish to me. It’s one thing, as you say, if you’re escaping an abusive situation, but in most of these cases the people are not, they just want to leave. Well, go ahead and leave. But write a note, leave some kind of message saying “I’m all right and don’t look for me.”

  1. Jose October 13, 2014 / 8:20 pm

    You should re-read your Lyon sisters’ updates.

    • Meaghan October 13, 2014 / 8:32 pm

      Whoops, will fix. *changes “uncle” to “nephew* I am such a dumbass.

  2. Kat October 14, 2014 / 8:37 pm

    That is so sad. I guess you can add her to the list you did some time back about parents of missing kids who died rather young, most with no resolution. I do hope her death leads to some needed publicity of her daughter’s case. Heartbreaking.

    • T.T. October 15, 2014 / 8:02 pm

      Agreed, as well as adding her and Trudy’s family as one of those rare and unfortunate “lottery” families. Who made up life anyway, and why do some people have to suffer so much more than others?

      R.I.P., Mrs. Gordon.

  3. Cattt October 16, 2014 / 12:37 am

    Just awful

  4. Debbie December 11, 2014 / 11:56 am

    I am the neice of “John Victor Dial” and I been reading the comments this was something that did not start until 1998 because my grandparents did not have the resources available back then like they do now. I been searching for 16 years far as resources as someone stated resources wasted there was not no effort from the police department all they did was a file a missing persons report I had to do that in order to get posters, flyers, information on websites because most of them would not unless there was a police report that police report was the key. I had to do most of the leg work that is what the police department told me they would just file it not actually out looking for him so before you start making statements know your facts first. Uncle John has been found living in Panama alive and well he has talked to several family members and plans on a visit in the future. What happened in the past is not important what is important he was found from the posting on a website and we are leaving the past in the past moving to the future. I never gave up hope felt someday someone would recognize the photo and I recently got remarried why I could not be found had not yet updated my info not important who contacted who but, he was found. Please respect our family and do not be rude. This has been a long ordeal alot of hard work on my part I never gave up when someone tells me I cannot do something I am going to prove them I can and the word “NO” is not in my vocabulary. Folks lets not lose sight on the issues at hand it doesn’t matter how long you have a missing loved one, circumstances of them missing. As NIJ investigated the challenges of missing persons and unidentified decedent cases, another problem was more fully revealed: the reporting of missing persons cases. Cases of missing persons 18 years old and younger must be reported, but reporting adult missing persons cases is voluntary. Only a handful of States have laws that require law enforcement agencies to prepare missing person reports on adults. Overall, there is a low rate of reporting these cases through NCIC. One of the major goals of NamUs is to meet this challenge. For example, NamUs will work with State clearinghouses and the public to ensure that data is included in NamUs and other national-level databases.Alot of these cold cases gets put on the back burner and alot of the families has to do alot of the leg work themselves it is not just handed to you. I wish everybody a Merry Christmas and God bless.

  5. Debbie (Fleming) Gillam December 11, 2014 / 12:20 pm

    I am the neice of John Victor Dial wanted to state he is alive and well living in Panama. At this time our family are very happy, feel we can finally put closure to this and put the past behind us and move on look to the future. We have been in touch with John. I started my search in 1998 so has been a long road 16 years of searching for answers alot of agencies I been in contact with over the years did alot of the leg work myself the key was getting the police report filed without a police report I would have gotten nowhere.I want to point out As NIJ investigated the challenges of missing persons and unidentified decedent cases, another problem was more fully revealed: the reporting of missing persons cases. Cases of missing persons 18 years old and younger must be reported, but reporting adult missing persons cases is voluntary. Only a handful of States have laws that require law enforcement agencies to prepare missing person reports on adults. Overall, there is a low rate of reporting these cases through NCIC. One of the major goals of NamUs is to meet this challenge. For example, NamUs will work with State clearinghouses and the public to ensure that data is included in NamUs and other national-level databases.

  6. Debbie (Fleming) Gillam December 13, 2014 / 5:32 pm

    Sorry everyone didn’t realize it posted twice

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