An open letter to Alicia

Alicia, I am not going to use your last name because someday hopefully you’re going to want to get a job or go to college or something and you don’t need this record hanging around your neck. But I have to ask you: why do you keep running away?

You’re not even old enough to drive. And you’ve run away at least THREE times this calendar year alone. And I’m pretty sure you ran away a handful of times in 2012 too. I get tired of seeing your face on “missing” posters, Alicia. I get an NCMEC notification in my inbox and I’m like, “Here we go again, Alicia’s run away for the umpteenth time.” I’ve been following NCMEC poster notifications for eight years and I’ve NEVER seen anyone who runs away as often as you.

One of these days, if you keep this up, I won’t get a “Alicia has been found safe” notification. It won’t be a happy ending. You are risking your life every time you run away. And if you’re like most runaways, when you run away you wind up in a much worse situation than whatever you were fleeing in the first place.

Please, please stop.

UPDATE, August 2: Alicia is back home. For now.

15 thoughts on “An open letter to Alicia

  1. archie July 24, 2013 / 4:20 pm

    There is a missing amber alert for a girl from RI, thought you might like to know if you didn’t

  2. forthelost July 24, 2013 / 6:08 pm

    There’s another kid, a boy with the initials SA, who’s been running away since he was ten years old (then he was Endangered Missing on NCMEC.) He’s now seventeen.

    I know who you’re talking about. I did check to see she was missing again.

  3. Jose July 24, 2013 / 7:58 pm

    Sally Lou Ritz was purged?

    • Meaghan July 24, 2013 / 8:38 pm

      She was indeed. Long story, but it turns out she was never really missing in the first place.

      • Ali July 28, 2013 / 1:06 pm

        Is the story of what really happened with Sally someplace online?

      • Meaghan July 28, 2013 / 2:14 pm

        There is no story and nothing “happened” to her. I just found out that she did not disappear and the story that she had is just kind of embroidered onto the Crater thing. But she testified in court about his disappearance months and even years later, so obviously she didn’t vanish without a trace shortly after he did.

  4. Jaclyn July 25, 2013 / 12:57 am

    Good words to share with Alicia. She is starving for attention, and needs to realize that sometimes we must find a “family” to be a part of and integrate our lives into trusting those people to give us what we have been missing. It’s hard for people to come to terms with NOT getting what we need from a family we may have been born in to, and thus look to create a sense of family elsewhere. However, it really does work to give in and allow others to help us through these times. You are right that she will regret the affects this will have on her future. She needs something to have a passion about and just stick to it day by day. Many of us that have come to terms with great pain in our lives have learned that some days it is just a minute at a time to choose to do the next right thing.
    Thanks Meaghan for reaching out to Alicia.

  5. Jennele July 25, 2013 / 2:20 am

    Theres some teens in florida that seem too runaway hundreds of times..

    • Meaghan July 25, 2013 / 9:43 am

      It’s possible that people run away in Florida more often because it’s warm there, and they can sleep rough, and I think there’s also a larger transient population than most other states.

  6. Peter Henderson Jr. July 25, 2013 / 10:40 am

    Alicia I don’t know you but if you or any other teens reading Meaghan post you may want to read about another teen who ran away once to often.

    “She was tossed aside in death as she was in life.” – The Shannon Aumock Story

    By Peter J. Henderson, Jr.
    March 25, 2011

    Part 1

    For almost nineteen years the petite teenage girl rested silently in the Double Butte Cemetery for indigents. Unknown, unloved; with no flowers on her grave, no headstone to tell others of her passing.

    To the few who knew her story she was known as East Deer Valley Jane Doe, unidentified white female; found on May 28, 1992.

    But there was so much to know about the girl with no name.

    On May 28, 1992, a man riding an all-terrain vehicle in a desert area off of East Deer Valley Road passed a spot commonly used to dump trash. He noticed a foul odor coming from a rubbish pile and saw a hand sticking out. He called the Phoenix, Arizona police who used tracking dogs to find her body which was hidden under a sheet of plywood.

    Investigators learned that she was between 13 and 17 years old. She stood between 5’1” and 5’3” tall and weighed between 100 and 120 pounds. They had to use estimates because she had been murdered four to eight weeks before she was discovered and in the hot desert sun her mortal remains were in a advanced state of mummification.

    Full two part post at my link

    • Jill Volker July 27, 2013 / 8:57 pm

      The story above is about a mile away from where I grew up. It always made me wonder who she was and thought it was Brandy Lynn Myers. I am glad she is known, and has a name now. Now to figure out who else is left in the desert…. 🙂

  7. Janessa July 25, 2013 / 4:22 pm

    I remember reading about the Shannon Aumock story. I discovered her story while researching the disappearance of Brandy Meyers. A tragic story, except Shannon bounced from foster care to foster care home, making her situation a bit different. Her mother gave her up because she was the result of a sexual assault. Shannon never had a family, no one to miss her…so if you do have a wonderful family, remember there is someone out there who does not have one, who would love one.

  8. zinc July 29, 2013 / 8:12 am

    I hope Alicia’s home is a safe place.

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