I just wanna tell you that I had enough

I’m giving myself two months (and eight days) off from Charley. See if that relieves my weariness some. The only significant break I ever had in eight years was I think four months off in the summer of 2008(?).

I plan to continue doing MPs of the week — this week’s is Ben Roseland — and may sneak in a few updates by and by, but they’ll be minor ones and I won’t announce them.

I also am planning on making some changes as far my case criteria, so I don’t keep getting so overloaded. Push the time limit back some probably, from six months to, say, a year. I’ll have plenty of time to figure this out.

I’m checkin’ out
I’m signin’ off
Don’t wanna be the loser and I’ve had enough

*flushes at the admission that she listens to N’Sync* Just that one song, I swear.

23 thoughts on “I just wanna tell you that I had enough

  1. michele October 23, 2012 / 5:00 pm

    Best of luck to you. I hope you’re feeling better soon and are able to make some clear-headed decisions about the future of Charley after some well-earned rest

  2. Marilyn October 23, 2012 / 5:34 pm

    I think it’s great that you are taking care of yourself. Given all you have been through, it isn’t surprising that you need a rest. If there is anything a long-time Websleuths member (marilynilpa) and a fan of Charley Project can do to help you, I really would like to help. Best wishes, and I hope you return full of vigor and ready to make decisions that you are happy with.

  3. NH October 23, 2012 / 6:12 pm

    You do a great job and deserve a break. However I will miss the updates and commentary.

  4. Bev October 23, 2012 / 7:24 pm

    My very best to you. I hope that you return to Charley rested and reinvigorated. We look forward to your return.

    Bev “Bevboy” Keddy

  5. Lauren October 23, 2012 / 7:33 pm

    I’ve been coming to your site for a few years now, but this is my first time I’m commenting. You do an amazing job on this site and amazed you’ve kept going this long without a break or changing criteria. It’s important to take care of yourself; no one can do it all! Enjoy your time off, we’ll miss you and your great work, but we’ll all still be here when you’re ready to come back.

  6. Justin October 23, 2012 / 9:05 pm

    Changing the case criteria from six months to a year is something I thought you should have done for a while now. A fair amount of missing persons cases will resolve themselves within a year, so you won’t have to make profiles for them.

    You need some time off. You shouldn’t be held hostage by your site. I love it, but I don’t want it destroying you. Take a breather. Exercise and eat right. I don’t particularly like doing either of those myself, but it does work. Then perhaps this lassitude will end and you will rediscover what made you fascinated with this subject to begin with.

  7. marycarney October 23, 2012 / 10:25 pm

    I am so GLAD that you are taking this step – to care for yourself. You are an amazing woman, and I hope that stepping away will recharge your batteries / sharpen your sword / clear your head.
    Thanks again for all the great work you have done.

  8. BellasPaw October 23, 2012 / 10:47 pm

    No one puts as much pressure on as you. Take a step back, get some fresh perspective, try something you’ve never done. Have some “me” time and discover something new. You’re an old soul, but still young so go where the heart and mind lead…think outside the box… We’ll be here to support you no matter what, and so will those IRL. Take care 🙂

  9. Lyndsie October 24, 2012 / 1:23 am

    Is it dumb to say I’ll miss hearing from you? Enjoy your break, though!

  10. Peter Henderson October 24, 2012 / 7:51 am


    Have a Happy Thanksgiving and a Merry Christmas. You have earned a long vacation. When you come back I suggest you do so with a revised list of criteria for posting new cases and updating existing ones. The one year rule is a good start, but I think it should be joined by others. More a priority list then anything else.

    1- Never let Charley get in the way of your personal life. Family and friends should always come first. So should your own personal life. Want to read a book, read a book. Want to see a movie or play, do so. Feel you need some fresh air, put on a sweater and take a long walk. Take it from a old political campaign manager, there will always be more things to do in a given day then you can get to. Learning how to say enough is enough; I’m going for beer then watch the game with friends, is the trick.

    2- Case’s that a family member has written to you about and asked you to do a report on should take priority over those that only have published reports. Knowing you helped a family out will always leave a smile on your face.

    3 – Case’s that have sufficient information available to write a concise but accurate profile should be given high priority.

    4 – Most important – Set a maximum number of cases to add or update in a given month. Don’t worry about the number of cases added to NamUs or NCMEC at any given time. Don’t worry about the number of new news reports about existing cases. There will always be more then you can handle and trying to add or update all of them as you encounter them will only lead to fatigue and a feeling of depression.

    Charley is the largest and best source of information about missing people. It will remain so as long as you realize your not the Bionic woman.

    • holly October 24, 2012 / 10:19 am

      I’m glad to see you’re taking care of you. Have a wonderful holiday season! See you in the New Year.

      • Kent October 24, 2012 / 12:02 pm


  11. Heather October 24, 2012 / 11:37 pm

    You deserve a nice long break! Enjoy it and it sounds like your fans will be hear when you get back!

    • Heather October 24, 2012 / 11:39 pm

      Of course that should be “HERE” when you get back! What a dummy I am!

  12. amy October 25, 2012 / 12:54 am

    You know that I think you do an amazing job. I also know that you need a break. I still think that at some point, you might want to find someone else to assist you so that you don’t get overly stressed out.

    It shows a great deal of maturity to know when you need some downtime. I think that after the new year, you will feel more rested and ready to decide the future. In the meantime, you can always email me (since you have my email) anytime!!


  13. Celeste October 25, 2012 / 4:11 am

    Bonne Voyage. Don’t let the little stuff get you down. 🙂

  14. meyahna October 25, 2012 / 6:22 am

    @Celeste it’s: bonnes vacances :); bonne voyage who should be bon voyage means have a happy trip.

    Enjoy your break Meaghan, good idea to push the time limit back. I’m sure it happened more than once that as soon as you added a six months old case you learnt it was just solved. And have a happy Halloween and merry Xmas.

  15. Kelly Evans October 25, 2012 / 12:36 pm

    I agree. A break is well needed and deserved. When you decide to come back, maybe you should consider enlisting some help from your fans. I’m sure any number of us would be willing to help you out a little. I view your site daily and would not be opposed to helping out in little ways and I’m sure there are many others that feel the same.
    something to consider anyway. Enjoy your break!

  16. Cattt October 27, 2012 / 5:14 am

    Enjoy your break, Meaghan!

  17. AnnieOakley October 27, 2012 / 3:31 pm

    I hope you have a lovely and relaxing holiday. Thank you for all the hard work, heart, and soul you’ve put into Charley!

  18. Steve October 28, 2012 / 8:50 pm

    This sucks. I’ll miss you and the updates.

  19. Emily:). October 30, 2012 / 8:45 pm

    I think it would help if you had somebody help run Charley. I’m not sure if you’re good with partners or not, but it may take some stress off if you had some help. I agree with the criteria, I think a little before one year would be good. :).

    Charley is awesome, btw. :).

  20. Peter Henderson November 1, 2012 / 2:47 pm

    Update while Meaghan rests up.

    Priscilla Ann Belvins, 27, who went missing from Charlotte, North Carolina on July 7, 1975 has been identified as Doe Network Hot Case 1652. The victim’s skeletal remains were found near the 8 mile marker off of I-40 on March 29, 1985 in Waynesville, Haywood County, North Carolina.

    Priscilla was from the Winston-Salem area. She graduated from Reynolds High School in 1966 and was a 1971 Wake Forest University graduate. She was identified through DNA and dentals provided by her sister, Cathy Blevins Howe.

    Police did not state if they believe that Priscilla was murdered but her remains were found in Haywood County, west of Asheville, on the Tennessee border.

    “I don’t think it was her own will that she was found on the side of the road,” her sister told the Winston-Salem Journal.

    Howe said she now wonders what the next step will be. She is planning for a “memorial homecoming” for Priscilla to be held Nov. 17 in Wait Chapel at Wake Forest University.

    Source extrapolation:

    Winston-Salem Journal

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