A lot of people have asked me about Timothy Carney, who disappeared from Butler, New Jersey in 2004. I found out last month that he was located, but under what circumstances I had no idea. Well, Jamie has sent me this article: Carney was actually found last September — seven years almost to the day after he vanished — and he’s alive and well, but he doesn’t want his family and friends to know where he is. Due to privacy laws, all the cops could do was say they’d found him and he was okay. So they closed his case. I had figured that was probably what happened, but it’s nice to have an article confirming it.
However, I don’t think it’s nice that the article says “Timothy Carney was never missing at all” just because he had left of his own accord. Plenty of people walk out of their lives and leave their families frantic, and just because they did it intentionally doesn’t mean they are not missing. You can say “Timothy Carney was never in danger” or something, but you cannot say he wasn’t missing, because he WAS missing for seven long years and the police and his family searched for him.
I hope he changes his mind and decides to at least give his mom and dad a phone call, or drop a postcard in the mail. I’m sure they would really appreciate it.
March 8, 2012 at 7:11 am |
Phew! Thanks for the update. His case mystified me ever since I saw his Disappeared episode. It seemed very plausible that he disappeared for his own personal reasons, but it also seemed that he could be in danger.
March 8, 2012 at 6:02 pm |
His family is probably better off without him in their daily lives, sad to say. He clearly harbors some resentment if he wants to be left alone. So sad.
May 16, 2012 at 3:00 pm |
To the two previous posters, if you remember correctly, he was part of a religion that has been called a cult. It is generally believed that he left his life to get away from the church. If that is the case then I definitely can see why he wants to keep his whereabouts a secret. If you read up on the Gospel Outreach, the things its former members paint a pretty grim picture of what that life is like. Maybe he left because he couldn’t figure any other way out.
May 19, 2012 at 6:00 am |
The show NEVER stated the church he was attending was a CULT. Also if you actually look up the definition of a CULT. ALL religions are in CULTS. DEFINITION (noun) 1. religious sect or system
(adjective)1. popular with a particular group. So even some mundane things can/could be considered a CULT. So please become informed on what you are talking about before you try and comment on it. Having been in law enforcement it was rather obvious from the start this was no abduction. He wanted a new life and decided to go find it.
May 26, 2012 at 7:18 pm |
what an ass
October 14, 2012 at 9:22 pm |
I am concerned that Tim may be mentally ill. Twenty-five is right in the range for onset of schizophrenia in males. That would make his religiosity make sense and his erratic behavior.
December 19, 2012 at 10:40 pm |
The article said he “may” not have been missing at all, btw.
April 25, 2013 at 11:48 am |
So sad and tough for his family that he could just getup and go. Seems a little selfish, he at least owes them an explanation don’t you think?
October 15, 2013 at 2:13 pm |
hes a scumbag. 2 leave his poor mom awake at night and crying all day worried and hes just bullshiting around town how could any man not call heir own mom on chrismas or mothers day what an ingrateful cock sucker hes 25 he madea choice 2 join a church he shoulda put his big boypants on and called famil
September 21, 2013 at 4:05 pm |
I personally knew the family for many years being friends with his sister. He always was a sweet boy, but socially awkward. He did not have many friends, but he was approachable. All in all, I am glad he us ok and am praying for the family.
January 23, 2014 at 4:32 pm |
This is awful. I have seen this story on “Disappeared” and it has played more than once. How could anyone let their family go through this unless they were mentally ill or brainwashed?!?? I cannot even imagine how his family felt.
January 23, 2014 at 4:41 pm |
Something is terribly amiss in the very unusual manner in which Mr. Carney upended his family, and his life. My personal observation tells me that this family is open, caring, and genuine. These are the seeds that sewed the central morality and ethics in the heart of Mr. Carney in his early childhood. In fact, loyalty to these tenets may be exactly what is at the root of this entire mystery. Let me explain.
It is a possibility that involvement with the small religious group of which he became a member tested his values and twisted his loyalty in favor of living a life eschewing anyone and anything that was countrary to their beliefs. The “importance” of each member becomes magnified when the group is small; you cannot blend into the walls if there are only a dozen or so members, as opposed to the typical church congregation of hundreds. Much more is expected of each individual, and with a charismatic leader, one can find themselves with a mind and soul completely swallowed up by the teachings of it’s leader. Once a person with Mr. Carney’s strong sense of personal integrity becomes swept up like this, his/her relationships to anyone or anything running counter to the group no longer have a place in their lives. Everthing in them begins to revolve around the way that they have now been programmed to believe. I realize that Mr. Carney relocated to another part of the country and away from the group he was part of, but would not be surprised to find a connection to where he is now.
Personally, I find this the most ironic and tragic thing about this and stories like it; the very qualities instilled in a child’s mind that were intended to help them live a moral life become the very same qualities that make them “ripe pickins'” for an unscrupulous group or individual. I hope and pray that he finds his way HOME.
January 23, 2014 at 4:54 pm |
That’s quite an astute observation.
May 16, 2014 at 6:02 am |
Really??ALL CHURCHES ARE CULTS?? Hmmm….funny I don’t remember my church trying to keep me away from my family…….thanks for opening my eyes…
June 4, 2014 at 3:14 pm |
I hope this Timothy Carney think wisely and give a phone call to his parents. They have been suffering a lot for his son, and this jet deserves burning in hell!!!!
August 14, 2014 at 1:39 pm |
I hope eventually with enough time, he will contact his family. There is a whole branch of Psychology devoted to helping people recover from cults.
In psychology these are the widely accepted characteristics, Authoritarian leadership, Exclusivism, Isolationism, opposition to independent thinking, fear of being outcast, and threats of Satanic attack (http://andynaselli.com/sociological-characteristics-of-cults). With the right help a person can recover from being in this type of organization.
I wish his parents and family closure knowing that he is alive and well. God willing, he may eventually come around.
January 16, 2015 at 11:09 am |
I hope it’s really Tim Carney and not someone who stole his identity!
January 16, 2015 at 12:02 pm |
Someone (SJ) needs to check again on the FULL meaning of CULT!! Only part of the meaning was quoted. There is a huge difference between just a religious group or system… and a cult. I hope and pray Tim eventually reconciles with his family for whatever his reasons were for disappearing.
January 20, 2015 at 10:57 am |
Why do so many people want to cuss out, hate, and possibly harm some guy you don’t even know and just saw on a TV show that didn’t even tell the story from his point of view? You are good for entertainment value, though.
January 31, 2015 at 12:20 am |
I so wish Discovery ID would quit airing his “Disappeared” episode for the 20th time. It was on as recently as last month. They have not put any note at the end saying he had been found. They played his episode more than any other on that series. I bet he has some mental problems if he doesn’t have the decency to contact his family after this length of time. The “cult” surely doesn’t have any hold on him now.
February 3, 2015 at 6:30 am |
I knew Tim, I went to church with him.( Not the church he was a part of before he left, though)I liked him very much I could always joke around with him. He was highly intellectual, working on writing his novel as a teenager.Not everything is always as it seems, the family did have issues, like most do. I will not say, much more than that. I don’t think anyone should judge him, he had his reasons. I hope he feels well enough to come back someday, and that there are people who remember him as he was kind and sensitive