Kenneth Carlisle found dead

I got an email from Kenneth Stewart Carlisle‘s wife: she wanted me to know he was found dead on October 1 last year. She didn’t say anything about the circumstances of his death and my research hasn’t revealed anything about it. Carlisle had been missing for six years; very possibly they simply don’t know what happened and how and why he died.

I’ll put him on Charley’s resolved page next time I update. His online obituary is here. He was 25 when he disappeared, had been married for two years, and left behind three children. I’m sorry he was found dead, but glad that he was found at all.

6 thoughts on “Kenneth Carlisle found dead

  1. Robin Cox January 20, 2012 / 10:53 pm

    I’m thankful the family updated you. What a sad story 😦 My heart is with his family, especially his three children and widowed wife. After six long years of searching, I’m glad their plight was finally able to end . Maybe they don’t have all the answers they wanted, but either way, may he rest in peace.

    • Meaghan January 20, 2012 / 11:46 pm

      I’ve resolved his case — I thought I wasn’t going to update today, but I did after all, with only one hour left in the day.

      One thing people don’t think about when it comes to missing adults is the financial problems that tend to result for their families. Like, let’s say a young married guy with a couple of kids (like Kenneth) vanishes without a trace, no indication as to what happened. So the family has lost a breadwinner, maybe the only breadwinner. The wife will inevitably have to work longer hours or whatever to keep the ship sailing, which is that much harder for the children. Perhaps the house was in his name only, so she can’t sell it, and she has to keep making the mortgage payments somehow, or they lose the family home. (One of many reasons why she’d probably try at all costs to hang on to the house: so her husband would have a home to come home to, if he ever came back.) Same thing with family vehicles — if he was the legal owner of the car, she’s kind of stuck with it and must either make the payments or have it repossessed. Perhaps a lot of their capital was in bank accounts in his name only — another loss. If the husband were dead rather than disappeared, Social Security would provide orphans’ benefits for the children, but it won’t do anything if they can’t prove he’s dead. And so on. And this could, potentially, last as long as seven years — all things being equal, that’s the standard amount of time that has to pass before someone can be declared legally dead.

      Relatively recently there have been changes in the laws of various states to make the aforementioned situation easier for left-behind families, but it’s still a major problem and the kind of thing you don’t really think about until it happens to you.

  2. Violet January 23, 2012 / 12:27 pm

    An option would be to divorce the missing partner or file legal separation, in order to have property settlement. However, I understand how that might be emotionally difficult for a searching husband or wife, especially if there was no problem in the marriage prior to the disappearance.

  3. Melissa Brennan-Carlisle January 23, 2012 / 4:03 pm

    Hi im Melissa his widow. He was found by a hunter on Oct 1st 2011 about 5 and quarter miles from where his vehichle had been found when he first went missing. he died of a self inflicted gun shot wound approxamitely 8-5-05. there is release in finally knowing what had happened. not really closure. leaves me utterly bewildered as to why but thats between him and God now. the kids are handling it pretty well they were fairly young then. the 2 oldest are old enough to remember him but not the youngest. i have my moments on how i feel. all of us truely are grateful to finally know

  4. Emma l January 25, 2012 / 11:30 am

    @ Melissa. I’m very sorry to hear that. An awful thing to have to go through. Thanks for updating.

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