Another abductee memoir

Tanya Kach has, with Lawrence Fisher, written a book about the time she was missing, called Memoirs of a Milk Carton Kid. It just came out a few days ago. Tanya’s story is a bit different from other abductees’ books: she initially ran away in the mid-nineties when she was 14. She went to go hide out at the home of her high school security guard, whom she’d been secretly dating. Conditions got worse, though, after the security guard refused to let her leave. She was basically held captive in his house against her will, whilst being sexually abused, for a decade before she escaped.

I’ve requested that the library buy a copy of the book. I still need to read Jaycee Dugard’s and Natascha Kampusch’s books. I wonder if Shawn Hornbeck will write one when he’s older?

Scarily, according to one article I found, the guy who did this to Tanya comes up for parole in five months.

Some articles:
Tanya Kach Discusses ‘Memoir Of A Milk Carton Kid’
Kach’s book tells of decade spent as McKeesport hostage
Captive sex slave for 10 years tells her story

(And on another note, I really should stop reading the comments on articles about crime and missing people. Sometimes the comments produce useful nuggets of information, but more often they just sadden/anger/disgust me. One commenter on a Tanya Kach article (not one of the articles linked above) said “She brought it on herself by going to his house.” Yes, by visiting a friend’s house you surrender your right to your freedom for the next ten years. Uh-huh. Similarly, there was one that was like, “Well, of course I feel sorry for her, but it was technically her fault.” Her fault? What about the sexual predator who took advantage of her and raped her and kept her a prisoner in his house throughout her entire adolescence? Does any fault lie with him? *headdesk*)

12 thoughts on “Another abductee memoir

  1. T.T. October 13, 2011 / 8:52 pm

    Yeah, this really bothers me too, Meghan. I’ve noticed how a lot of people seem to have the all answers from a nice, safe distance. I’ve seen it on many places (including here) and it just goes to show how unsympathetic (with emphasis on the word “PATHETIC” being in there) and condescending we are as a society. Everyone exercises poor judgment in their lives. Everyone. Some of us are actually lucky to have nothing come out by doing so and others, like poor Tanya, aren’t. I hope she and all other victims/loved ones of victims of any crime get the love, understanding, support, therapy, etc. they deserve to get their bearings and move on and live their lives instead of just having to deal with some ignorant fools who are quick to point the finger at who seems the most convenient. After all, do they really know what they would have done in her shoes, as in would they really have a plan or the “answer”???

  2. Kat October 13, 2011 / 9:58 pm

    Amen T. T. That is true. The internet breeds anonymity, and thereby people say anything and everything on their minds with no thought as to what the facts are. It’s hang em high, in the technical age. As for Tanya, I am surprised she wrote a book, but also, she must be having a hard time overall, finding a job, catching up on things, etc. This happened in an area I used to live, though she was long gone by the time I moved there. As to Shawn Hornbeck, I saw him on tv more than once and it seemed that his primary goal was to try and put all of it behind him. Maybe much later he would write something. Any way, it is up to the victims. I find it sad that TK’s abductor is up for parole. I hope he doesn’t get it, but hoping doesn’t stop someone else from taking their place.

  3. Celeste October 13, 2011 / 11:50 pm

    It always bothers me is when the abductor or whoever blames the victim for the faults of the police agencies and clearly the police agencies and everyone else failed Tanya.

  4. petra October 17, 2011 / 9:24 pm

    I think that some of the reason people try to blame the victim is so that they can tell themselves it won’t happen to them or that it isn’t random. You know like if they try and rationalise it to be that she only had that happen BECAUSE she ran away to be with him, then they don’t have to accept that it could and does often happen to anyone.

  5. emma l October 18, 2011 / 11:22 am

    Ugghh, these comments are also all too often aimed at women. No matter the crime or circumstance a lot of people like to believe that the women somehow “asked for it”. Its really very disturbing.

  6. emma l October 18, 2011 / 11:43 am

    Also, a good point there TT- we’ve all exercised poor judgement at one time or another.

  7. Awakeallmight November 18, 2011 / 3:16 am

    I don’t think people are saying that this “security guard” bore no responsibility for his actions, I think what people are responding to is her depiction of herself as being similar to Jaycee Dugard and other victims that were abducted whereas this young woman ran away to be with her supposed captor. Her unwillingness to see any personal responsibility in her choice to run away is what I think some people find uncomfortable or hard to empathize with.

  8. Frankie December 5, 2012 / 7:18 pm

    There is something about her account that just does not ring true and it is fairly self-evident that she quite clearly lying about some of the factual matters of just how she came to be living in Mr. Hose’s house for ten years. Her NVC’s (Non-Verbal Communications) during her interview are unequivocal evidence of the fact.

    It is also clear that no member of her family made any attempt to find her. Her step-mother clearly had no time for her and it is also evident that her family retained material which could have been passed to the police to assist them in their investigation, but they chose not to do so. It is a very odd state of affairs as clearly, if this material had been passed to the police they could have investigated who ‘Tom’ was.

    The more I thought about the case the more I became convinced that Tanya’s family knew, or had a fair idea of where she was all the time. The fact that they chose to leave her there was because they were fairly sure that she would come to no harm (Note, not absolutely sure). She would have more idea than I as to just why that should be. I believe it is because she was a disruptive influence in the house and her father and step-mother had absolutely had enough of her difficult behaviour.

    This, of course, does not excuse their utter indifference.

    Mr. Hose was convicted of statutory rape, it is true, but because of the fact that he formed a sexual relationship with her… Even if she had been the one to initiate this physical relationship he would still have been committing an offence. The fact that he was convicted is, in and of itself no evidence of the fact that he forced her or tricked her into this position.

    What is utterly inexplicable is the fact that she ran to him in the first place, stayed in a house unrestrained in any way, made no attempt to escape or contact the other persons living in the house and went along with the hoax later on that Hose was her boyfriend.

    How does she explain the fact that she already had a very troubled background, ran away from home on a regular basis and made a major contribution to the position she found herself in? These are, respectfully, not the actions of a person who had been held against their will.

    Kidnapped? Really?? There are just too many people who saw her free and unrestrained (and who have no reason to lie about it) that tend to show that for Tanya Kach, this was a lifestyle choice.

    • Meaghan December 5, 2012 / 7:26 pm

      Ever heard of Colleen Stan?

      • Frankie December 6, 2012 / 6:12 pm

        No… I hadn’t, but the facts are hardly the same, are they – except that both persons at issue are female.

        Having done quite a bit of research on Colleen today I think from what I have read about the case that she is a genuine victim of multiple rape, kidnap, torture and other horrific abuse – and that any suggestion that she was somehow complicit in this can be reasonably explained in that in her instance she showed clear and unequivocal signs of Stockholm Syndrome.

        She unwisely accepted a lift from a complete stranger, with terrible consequences and was clearly tortured and subjected to horrific treatment by her abuser.

        By contrast, there is no suggestion that this was the case with Tanya Kach. It appears to me that she was utterly complicit in what happened to her, as an alternative lifestyle to a life she hated at home.

        None of this excuses, in any way, the fact that Thomas Hose took full advantage of her infatuation and made full use of his opportunities.

    • The Father March 6, 2019 / 1:30 pm

      Frankie, you are only partially correct with your summation. However, you are not correct in your assumption that I did not look for her at all. I was the one that got her info to the police and got her name listed in the database at the center for missing and exploited children.

      I cooperated at every turn with the authorities in the years that she (Tanya) went missing. It was the McKeesport police department and the detectives assigned to the case that dropped the ball and let the trail grow cold. I had a search and seizure warrant granted to me by a judge which gave me the power to search (with the help of any local municipal law enforcement agency, of course) any and all places where I thought she might be. I used this power extensively. This was information that was given and proved in the deposition(s) but was suppressed by her attorney for some unknown reason.

      There is more than meets the eye here concerning this whole debacle. Tanya ran away willingly to this Hose character. At least five times we were to later learn through the court system during his trial. She left our home after I had given her/us a chance at starting anew since her mother and I divorced. She rebuked the new life I offered her at every turn. It was by her own volition that she left and stayed away for those ten long years. Why she chose to return is something no one will probably ever know. Hose’s house was searched (not very well by the police) and she had the opportunity way back then to step forward and present herself to the authorities but she chose not to.

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