Some depressing correspondence

I got an email from some poor woman who has vastly overestimated my abilities and the Charley Project’s scope. She wants me to “re-open” her daughter’s case, produce a current AP (her daughter disappeared a quarter-century ago), etc. Her husband just died and she wants to know her daughter’s fate before it’s her time to go. When I say this is depressing I mean it’s depressing to me to have to tell her I can do none of those things, and it’s probably going to be depressing to her to hear that.

Obviously she went to the Charley Project frontpage in order to get my contact info, but I guess she didn’t read the part that explains that the site is for publicity only. I don’t try to solve cases; I only catalog them and let others do the solving. But this is hardly the first time people have assumed I’m some kind of detective or what.

Maybe I’ll refer her to the Doe Network. I think they do APs.

8 thoughts on “Some depressing correspondence

    • Meaghan April 21, 2011 / 3:58 pm

      I don’t think so.

  1. Liz O April 21, 2011 / 3:36 pm

    So sad – it sounds like she doesn’t even know where to start …

    • Meaghan April 21, 2011 / 3:59 pm

      I think I’ll refer her to Project Jason. They might know more than I do about how to get the investigation reopened or whatever, and at the very least they can provide moral support.

  2. Princess Shantae April 21, 2011 / 5:34 pm

    Maybe you should have your “I’m not a detective, I’m just the messenger” thing right on top of the page instead of in a separate section they have to click on. Most people don’t bother to click on disclaimers and limits and stuff.

    • Meaghan April 21, 2011 / 5:43 pm

      But it is right at the top of the frontpage: “The Charley Project profiles over 9,000 “cold case” missing people mainly from the United States and links to over 500 missing person related websites. It does not actively investigate cases; it is merely a publicity vehicle for missing people who are often neglected by the press and forgotten all too soon.”

  3. Ms. Kaufman April 21, 2011 / 9:23 pm

    Well, it is true that in this world most nobody reads the fine print. But still, it’s so sad and I hope she gets the help she wants from whoever you refer her to

  4. Kat April 22, 2011 / 5:17 pm

    And, people don’t always read everything all the way through, they skim or read partway and go “yeah, yeah, yeah”. One of those yeahs could be important. My husband and stepdaughters are that way with listening a lot. I’ll say something and they will literally stop listening halfway in. Later, when something is half done or late or mixed up and they wonder why, I’ll find out about it. “I thought you said add three eggs!”. “I did. I also said add a half cup water.” “Oh.” Oy. I can’t stand that. Same principle as reading.

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