Interview with Eva Marie’s dad

I found this article quoting Eva Marie Fiedler’s dad, telling a little bit of his story. He has spoken to Eva Marie on the phone, but apparently it didn’t go well. I’m not surprised. There’s so much between them now and who knows what the abducting mother has said to Eva.

There’s also this article, Mom is waiving extradition and has agreed to return to New Jersey to face the charges against her. Of course she’s telling the old “fled from abusive ex” story.

If you look at the comments section of these articles you see some of the usual abductor defenders, yet a surprisingly large percentage of commenters supporting the father and condemning the abducting mother’s actions.

19 thoughts on “Interview with Eva Marie’s dad

  1. Princess Shantae October 8, 2010 / 4:54 pm

    There’s actually nothing between Eva and her father now. That’s how come it didn’t go well. Maybe if she’ll give him a chance there will be a better relationship but right now they don’t have anything to go on. She may not even remember him from before her mother took her. Even if her mother never said anything bad about him, she doesnt’ know him from Adam, and she’s not a little girl anymore. She may think that she got along ok without him for this long so why should he suddenly get to be a part of her life now? Hopefuly she will change her mind but he’ll have to be patient with her.

  2. Justin October 8, 2010 / 6:34 pm

    From the article, he sought custody because the mother was denying visitation rights and later, she ran after he was awarded full custody.

    I think the mother is going to play the “he was molesting my child” card. Most people sympathize with that. I have no clue if he did or didn’t, or if the mother only believed she was being molested. One thing I have found out is that people can convince themselves of anything. I don’t think we will ever find out if it is true or not by this time, but I think the daughter will side with her mother unless she grew up seeing delusional behavior in her mother.

    • Meaghan October 8, 2010 / 6:40 pm

      You know, I have only ever seen one case where the abductor parent admitted to the child that they’d kidnapped them because they were being a selfish jerk, and the searching parent loved them and deserved to know them, and actually helped the kid find the searching parent. And in that case, the abductor was the father.

      • forthelost October 11, 2010 / 1:17 pm

        Besides that, Luca Principali’s mother said she did it to “teach his father a lesson.”

      • shininghappyperson October 4, 2011 / 12:57 am

        That question was directed towards Meaghan.

      • Meaghan October 4, 2011 / 4:51 am

        You know, I actually forget the name. She was a little girl taken to Mexico when she was like two, and her dad told her the truth when she was seventeen or so.

  3. Kat October 8, 2010 / 6:58 pm

    I’m shocked so many people are condemning the mother. If it were the father, they’d want to hang them in the town square, but usually when it is mom, it’s all good, like we own the kids we have or something. I hope Eva and her dad can work it out, but that is a long time…..

    • Meaghan October 8, 2010 / 7:10 pm

      Yeah, I was surprised by that too. I mean, there are a lot of “she must have done it for a good reason because Moms never hurt their kids” comments, but it seems like at least half are supporting the father.

      Selfishness and narcissism are not confined to one gender or the other, alas. And if Eva Marie’s mom really did abduct her to stop/prevent abuse, the burden of proof should be on her because she is the one who openly broke the law here.

  4. Celeste October 8, 2010 / 7:42 pm

    Who even knows what her mother told her about her father or how her mother went about brainwashing her? But you have to take into account that Eva Marie said that she “doesn’t remember him!” Maybe with time she can learn the absolute truth about what really happened?

  5. Candy October 8, 2010 / 8:58 pm

    I find this so sad. 26 years just gone and I find it unlikely that their relationship is going to get much better, and even if it does its going to take a long time… Who knows what Eva`s been told by her mother.

    And I agree with Kat; its surprising people side with the mother.

  6. Caroline October 9, 2010 / 10:46 am

    From what I’ve heard, this was a wonderful mother who was doing what any mother should do…protecting her child from an abusive situation. i applaud her. Too many women stay in abusive situations with their children. They don’t protect them. If this story is true, that it was an abusive home, I think the world of this mother, and I think the world of her daughter for standing by her like she is. I hope the mother will NOT be convicted for what she did. If the daughter wants a relationship with the dad, she can have it now. But if she does not, then no one can force it on her. It’s up to them now. The charges against the mother should just be dropped. Case closed.

    • Celeste October 9, 2010 / 7:38 pm

      Caroline,

      You don’t know the circumstances by which Mr Fiedler was given custody of Eva Marie? There are really only two people who actually know what happened? That’s Mr Fiedler himself and the New Jersey judicial system.
      I think there’s a lot more to this story than Eva Marie is willing to tell. She hasn’t even told her side of things. She can’t have had a “normal” life on the lam with her mother.
      And even then Mrs Fiedler didn’t have custody of Eva Marie when she fled with her. So I’m rather suspicious of the “abusive ex” story.

    • Meaghan October 9, 2010 / 7:51 pm

      It seems to me that, since Mrs. Fiedler is the one who openly violated the law and kidnapped her daughter in violation of a court order, if there is abuse the burden of proof should be on her. And I can say right off that I have seen VERY few cases where the abducting parent was acting from real risk of harm to the child. Almost all the time, the abducting parent is simply trying to keep the kid to themselves, or trying to hurt their ex-partner, or both.

  7. jaime October 9, 2010 / 12:03 pm

    Caroline where are you getting that this father abused his daughter. The mother was denying him visitation and then he ended up taking her to court when the judge ruled that he should get 10 days of straight visitation to help make up for all the visitation that she had denied him she fled during the court process. 9 months passed where the authorities could not locate the mother and child and could not get her to come to court to rule on visitation the ended up giving full custody to the father. we put people in prison for stealing cars and breaking into cars. we should put them into prison for stealing a childhood from their children something that is not replaceable.

  8. Kat October 9, 2010 / 8:34 pm

    I always think of Sabrina Fair Allen every time I read stories like this….she’s been gone a long time now and I can only imagine what she and her father are going through. I hope they can find her soon (or again, as the case may be).

  9. Zoe October 9, 2010 / 10:04 pm

    Without knowing the specifics but the father was awarded full custody, so can’t have been any proof of wrong doing, some parents are truly selfish.

    A lot of people think life would be infintely easier if they could avoid contact with the ex! Or maybe the ex broke it off and they feel vindictive about it. But in no way is that the best thing for children not to spend time with and know the other parent who probably loves them greatly.

  10. Celeste October 12, 2010 / 7:34 pm

    All we do know is that Greg Fiedler lost 26 years with his daughter because his ex-wife wanted to have her “all to herself” and then to add insult to injury the Eva Marie said that she wanted to legally change her name to Melissa Read. How can any child say that to their searching parent without knowing the truth about what really happened?
    She’s 32 now and she still doesn’t know the truth about what really happened?

    • Meaghan October 13, 2010 / 10:22 am

      Well, I can’t say I blame her for wanting to keep the only name she’s ever known, though of course it is a slight to her father.

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