Arkadiy Tashman missing almost five years

As this Village Voice blog entry notes, seventeen-year-old Arkadiy Tashman will be missing for five years on January 26. He is missing under rather unusual circumstances: he was last seen leaving a friend’s home at 2:45 a.m., and never made it back to his own home on Staten Island. Later that day, his parents found a note in his bedroom that said, “Sorry about his. No wake, no funeral.”

But Arkadiy’s body, if he killed himself, has never been found, and as far as I know there aren’t any real indications that he was suicidal prior to his disappearance. His girlfriend said he had considered suicide before, but nearly everyone does at some point in their lives, and there’s no word on just how far that consideration went. Of course, plenty of people kill themselves without displaying any warning signs beforehand. But where in New York City could you kill yourself without your body ever being found?

Arkadiy doesn’t fit the profile of a runaway, either. He didn’t come from a troubled home and he had no history of running away. He was a high school junior at the time of his disappearance, but I’m not sure how good a student he was. I read somewhere that he had to repeat a year due to excessive absences. (It might be worth noting that he stayed at his friend’s house till nearly three in the morning on a school night.) He is originally from Russia and emigrated to the US at age eleven. His older sister set up a blog about his disappearance, but it hasn’t been updated in over a year.

Perhaps, like in the case of Richard Massey, his body has been found and remains unidentified. I certainly hope not. I hope Arkadiy is still alive and I hope he gets in touch with his family soon. I have no no clue what happened to him, but it doesn’t look good.

14 thoughts on “Arkadiy Tashman missing almost five years

  1. kat January 8, 2010 / 1:49 am

    totally off topic but in today’s updates the william jones file is linked to the dawnia jo howard file instead.

  2. danielle January 8, 2010 / 2:31 am

    Some days I really feel for the missing people who are victims of crime and violence. I feel sorry for their families and people who loves them, as we all know, family members can be the criminal.
    Somebody out there loves the person who is missing.
    I just can’t understand abusing someone, a child, old person or spouse.
    Today is one of those days when I feel sorry for them

  3. Justin January 8, 2010 / 7:33 am

    Perhaps he just wanted everyone to think he committed suicide so he could live his life, away from the pressure of family and friends. More than a few people (myself included) have fantasized about just taking off and starting a new life where you can reinvent yourself since nobody knows you or has any expectations based on your past. Some people can do that, but I talked to some people in community college who said they tried. They didn’t fake their deaths, but they did cut themselves off from their past to start fresh and the reality is that it’s not easy to pull off. You make the same mistakes and you find that your past and personality have caused you gravitate back to the same situations you were running away from in the first place. And although some people realize they made a mistake, they cannot face going back because they think they have burned their bridges.

    Or he could be dead and unidentified if his remains have been found. You have mentioned that NYC doesn’t have the best track record for putting names to unidentified remains.

    • Meaghan January 8, 2010 / 3:23 pm

      That is indeed a possibility (and one I’ve fantasized about myself, too, many times) but I think a seventeen-year-old boy would have to be really smart and really motivated to be able to pull that off for so long.

      If Arkadiy really did leave voluntarily, I wish he would look himself up online and see just how much he’s torn his family to shreds and how much his sister misses him. I’m sure she’d give both her arms just to get a phone call from him.

      • danielle January 8, 2010 / 3:50 pm

        you would think he’d realize how much his sister misses him, but also, he would be too scared with the “Oh she’s mad at me…she doesn’t love me anymore…….”

      • Meaghan January 8, 2010 / 4:41 pm

        Yes. I have heard about other people who ran away and turned up years or decades later and they said the longer they were gone, the harder it became to go back or contact their family, though they knew they ought to.

        I’m sure the Tashman family’s love and joy at Arkadiy’s return would far outweigh their anger at his leaving them.

  4. danielle January 8, 2010 / 3:49 pm

    I think everyone, if not, then most people, have really wanted to “just leave.” I’ve actually thought of the state I’d go to. I’ve thought of the name I will use. And my new birthday. Even the kind of job I’d be interested in.
    But I’m married and have 3 children so I don’t want to miss out on their lives.
    Some days are better than others. Especially when depression hits.
    …remember the story on Ester “something” who took the identity of Brooke Hansen and wanted to be Brooke the rest of her life?
    She was on the run for years until captured a few years ago.
    She lived off student loan money.
    I don’t have the personality to do something like that and be on the run most of my life. I like stability.
    But, it doesn’t change there are days I want to leave and start over.

    • Meaghan January 8, 2010 / 4:42 pm

      Yeah, I remember her. The thing struck me as kind of a joke — that this woman who didn’t even have a high school diploma was able to perform so well at Ivy League universities. (Which goes with what I’ve heard about them being hard to get into but ridiculously easy to excel in once you’re there. Something like 90% of the Harvard Class of 2000 graduated with honors, lol.)

  5. Paul Thompson January 21, 2010 / 12:55 am

    Thank for for posting this wonderful blog about Arkadiy. I am a close friend of Arkadiy’s sister Natalya and the founder of a Group called Friends of Arkadiy that is dedicated to helping Natalya and her family find the answers that they so deserve. There is a very imortant interview that is posted on the Friends of Arkadiy MySpace page listed above that was very well done by our good friend Todd Matthews for his internet radio talk show Missing Pieces. The issue addresses a lot of things including Arkadiy’s past conversations with Natalya on the subject of suicide. Please visit the page and find the group and myself on Facebook as well.

    • Lori Bolton January 20, 2011 / 6:35 am

      Thanks Friend.

  6. Sean G February 5, 2010 / 1:54 am

    I knew Arkadiy personally…I went to junior high with him (IS72) and then freshman year of high school. I actually have the yearbook where he left me his email so we could chat after we left middle school. He was awesome, a great kid. I feel so awful for his family, mostly. Please accept my most sincere sorrow, because to not know what happened to a loved one has to be the most painful feeling. I hope and pray that a miracle will happen, any kind.

  7. Belle December 18, 2010 / 5:07 pm

    This case has bothered me for a long time. I just remembered it again and randomly typed his name on Facebook. What popped up was someone called “Arkdy Tishman”. Could this person be Arkadiy? They seem to look alike and there’s no other record of an arkdy tishman anywhere on the web… http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=749163961&v=wall

  8. Lori Bolton January 20, 2011 / 6:33 am

    I didn’t know Arkaidy personally but when I first hears about him, his family and then saw his face I knew somehow he would be in my heart and on my mind. My friend Paul is a WONDERFUL person, never met Paul either but have talked with him extensively regarding “Ark” and the MANY MANY other missing Men, Women and Children. I too am a family that has a missing loved one. Her name is Cerilla Ann Bolton Doyle. So I can understand the heartache. I SO wish for the answers that is family SO deserve. God Bless you Arkaidy. We love you and want you to come home. And thanks My Friend Paul for understanding ME too.

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