This is disgusting

I just found this article about Lucero Sarabia‘s relatives doing a vigil for her. The 21-year-old woman with two children was eight months pregnant when she disappeared from San Antonio, Texas five years ago.

The comments on this article are sickening:

2 kids, 8 months pregnant? WTF GET IN THE PROGRAM stop partying stop doing drugs get a job

and:

Why should she have? Each litter she squirted out gave her a bigger check each month. So while grandmama and aunts took care of her puppies, she could still go out and go to parties, and die her hair, and still have fun. I mean, having tons of kids doesn’t mean you need to change your behavior, does it?

God forbid a woman have three children. Shame on her. (My mother had seven.) God forbid she go to a party to celebrate Thanksgiving. God forbid she dye her hair. (I do.) As far as I know, Lucero wasn’t a drug abuser or on public assistance. She was married, too. Separated from her husband, it’s true, but married. And no matter who she was, she was also in all probability the victim of a terrible crime, and she doesn’t deserve to have complete strangers who know nothing say such awful things about her.

What the heck is wrong with people? Whatever happened to sympathy and compassion and all of that?

16 thoughts on “This is disgusting

  1. Justin November 28, 2009 / 6:17 pm

    Sympathy and compassion got burned off after years of seeing all too many mothers dong what these people are commenting on. You see it enough times, you start thinking that is the norm rather than the exception.

    Granted, these commentators are being A-holes throwing those kind of anonymous comments without knowing the facts about someone they don’t know. But I know of far too many women like the one in this article I am linking below:

    http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-child-death29-2009nov29,0,7023900.story?track=rss

    If you get burned, ripped off, lied to and exploited all too often, you start thinking to worst of everyone you don’t know personally.

    • Christy November 28, 2009 / 8:23 pm

      Amen Justin. We are continuously bombarded with stories of the worst humanity has to offer. Its tough not to jump to negative conclusions. That said – there is no excuse for the anonymous accusations being slung against this woman. Some people just have too much time on their hands or some anger that they have no constructive way to channel. Odds are this lady has met a terrible fate and it probably had little do with how she lived her life good or bad.

  2. orla November 28, 2009 / 8:18 pm

    I agree with Justin’s description of the contributors to the Lucero Sarabia article thread.

    But when I read her Charley file I too thought, why was this woman at 8 months pregnant out partying ? Sometimes when the people you read about here on Charley make decisions that you yourself would not, or you would consider to be reckless, you cannot help but think yikes – why did they do THAT.

    It doesn’t mean you think they deserve what befell them or that you don’t have some empathy for them.

    • Meaghan November 28, 2009 / 9:05 pm

      We don’t know what kind of party it was. Perhaps it was a simple gathering of friends hanging out at an apartment playing music and eating pizza, who knows. As long as she wasn’t drinking or using drugs, I don’t see why she shouldn’t be allowed to enjoy herself a bit before she has to do the diaper changes and late-night feedings.

    • orla November 28, 2009 / 10:02 pm

      I don’t think I was suggesting the lady in question not be “allowed” to go partying – merely questioning the wisdom of doing so. I know at 8 month pregnant I was very much into being comfortable and rested which ruled out partying – irrespective of the type of gathering it was.

  3. Justin November 28, 2009 / 8:48 pm

    I want to amend what I said, previously. I would NEVER post what those people did in that article, even if I did feel it was true. She has family and loved ones and they could read it. I am guilty myself of writing some pretty scathing posts on this blog about things I feel strongly about, but I don’t go for personal attacks.

    I don’t know this woman and her lifestyle from what I’ve read would not be one I would care for. But no matter what kind of person she was, I would not wish her probable fate on anyone. The people who posted those offensive messages are abusive jerks who probably made crank phone calls when they were younger.

    • Emily November 28, 2009 / 11:26 pm

      People are all too willing to say ugly things when they’re protected by the anonymity of the internet. I have a feeling most of those idiot commenters wouldn’t say those terrible things to her family members’ faces. I hope that Lucero is alive, but it doesn’t look good, and no matter what kind of lifestyle she led, she doesn’t deserve death. Her family is aching for her and they deserve to be able to lay her to rest and get whatever closure they can. We should all step back and take a look at our own lives before we start casting judgments on others’ lifestyles, to be sure.

      • Emily November 28, 2009 / 11:26 pm

        By the way, Justin, I wasn’t directing my comments at you – you’re most respectful. I was adding my 2 cents to your opinion of the commenters on the other news site 🙂

  4. Emma l November 30, 2009 / 9:30 am

    Awful comments but yes its because its the internet and people feel they can say what they want with no consequences. It surprises me a little because I actually think I am the opposite. On the net I tend to give a much more measured and thought out response. In real life I am not nearly as nice!

    • orla November 30, 2009 / 1:23 pm

      Me too Emma !

      With email/message boards you have the save as draft/delete functions – Ionly wish my big mouth came with those two things.

      I think it was Ambrose Bierece who said something like when you speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you ever regret.

      So true.

      • Emma l December 1, 2009 / 9:45 am

        I’ll say!

  5. emily December 1, 2009 / 12:35 am

    I have not read her profile yet or know anything about her case. I will say this much, the fact that she was at a party 8 months pregnant is not really that important as far as who she was or her behavior. I went to 2 Chrstmas parties at 7 months pregnant and a new years party one week later. I also celebrated my birthday with friends early in the pregnancy. I did not smoke or drink or take drugs, just becasue you are pregnant does not mean you can not have a good time. No harm in enjoying the company of friends while expecting.

  6. thegreatrockyhill December 1, 2009 / 3:17 am

    You’d be shocked and saddened at how the anonymity of the internet can lend itself to such cruelty. I’ve been on the wrong end if it myself.

  7. donna December 2, 2009 / 4:27 am

    Nothing People say surprizes me -after a friend Died in Police Custody in N Andover, MA Thanksgiving Day. I knew Him and his Family. No matter what your lifestyle, or what transgressions have been made in the past, the Dead deserve respect. The whole Family does. Some of the comments brought tears to my eyes-the content and bashing a Dead man was that degrading. These are educated people!! They know better! How messed up is THAT? I wish I could line them all up and slap them silly, and kick the men in their crotches and ruin them for life. I think they hide behind fake sreen names and vent all of their anger on people who can’t fight back because their pitiful existence sucks.

  8. amdanda November 1, 2018 / 3:51 pm

    I thank you all for the positive comments, Lucero is my sister. I am just now seeing these comments as i was researching her information on the internet. Just to clarify for anyone who questioned her being at a party at 8 months pregnant, not that it matters because she should be able to enjoy herself but it was actually a family gathering for thanksgiving. The news used “party” to grab everyone’s attention. But again thanks to all the positive comments sadly we have not heard any news of my sister’s disappearance but we continue to keep our faith very high.

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