Brittany Williams, Rilya Wilson, Darnell Moore and Aarone Thompson again

39-year-old Damion Davis has been charged with abandoning his baby son, Qua’mere Rogers, two or three years ago. The police didn’t even know Qua’mere existed until a couple of months ago when someone tipped them off. The police can’t find a picture of him and even his age seems to be in dispute — the aforementioned link says he was between eight months and one year old, but another article gives his age as two. The press can’t seem to get any of the details straight; they also give two different years for Qua’mere’s disappearance. Perhaps Davis himself can’t remember exactly when it happened.

Qua’mere’s mother was fifteen or sixteen years old when he was born. (Another detail the articles differ on.) Due to her being underage, Davis has also been charged with rape. The mother says she thought Davis was eighteen when she met him, and that he’d given her a false name and she didn’t know his real name until the police contacted her about Qua’mere’s disappearance. She said he was physically abusive to her and she left him and Qua’mere in 2006 and never saw them again, but she lied to the state Department of Social Services and said Qua’mere was living with her, which I guess is part of the reason why he was never missed.

Anyway, Davis says he gave the child to some guy whom he met at a friend’s apartment and that person gave him to a member of the United Nation of Moors. I’m not sure if Davis is referring to this black power group or not. They gave him a phone number to call, but it turned out to be no good. Clearly, however, Davis wasn’t too concerned about it, since he never got in touch with the police or anything.

I wouldn’t be at all surprised if this child wasn’t abandoned at all, but actually sold, or outright killed. And I wouldn’t be surprised if, lacking even the most basic description and detail for Qua’mere, the police never find him.

All I can do is hope for a happier resolution than seems possible.

20 thoughts on “Brittany Williams, Rilya Wilson, Darnell Moore and Aarone Thompson again

  1. Brianna Brawley October 10, 2009 / 1:15 pm

    Stupid people! The mother thought the 39yo man was 18? Yea right. What Justin said about Amanda Brown’s mother.

    • Meaghan October 11, 2009 / 11:25 am

      My boyfriend was 27 years old when I met him. I thought he was 19. Not because he told me he was 19, but because he looked about that age and he was attending college.

      • Brianna Brawley October 11, 2009 / 2:56 pm

        Yea but were you 15 or 16 at the time?

      • Meaghan October 11, 2009 / 3:38 pm

        As a matter of fact, I was. I was sixteen years old. We’ve been together ever since and anyone who has anything to say about it had better not say it to me.

      • Brianna Brawley October 11, 2009 / 5:29 pm

        Woah, thats sick! A 27yo man messing with a 16yo girl??!! If a man that age would of been trying to make it with me my parents would of had him arested!

      • Meaghan October 12, 2009 / 1:02 am

        You do not know anything about our relationship and you are already making assumptions which are wrong.

  2. Kelly October 10, 2009 / 4:08 pm

    Hate to sound preachy or political, but is it obvious to others that the real reason things like this happen is because of poverty and ignorance? The mother, father and grandmother just could not care less about that baby because that is their world. We understand just how precious children and life is because either we were not raised in poverty or we were and had the fortune to raise above it with education.

    I really do not think some people know any other way and that is what the real problem is. If more education and mentoring took place in lower income families at an earlier time, I think our society would see a lot less of the pathetic stories like this one. Just my opinion.

    The Pollyannna in me is hopeful that the baby is not dead and is living with a family that will love and educate him. The reality is as Meaghan posted-probably dead. So awful.

    • Justin October 10, 2009 / 7:53 pm

      Education and mentoring is just a compass to show you options and point you in the right direction. There is no guarantee that people will go there. I have seen many people who were educated and loved and they still went down bad paths.

      But at it’s core, there are still some roads you don’t go down and continue to say what you did was not a bad or evil thing. I don’t want to hear his parents try to justify their actions because I’d have to fight the urge to knock their teeth down their throat.

    • Meaghan October 11, 2009 / 11:28 am

      I’m all for helping out the poor and uneducated, but poverty and ignorance don’t go very far in explaining this kind of thing. Most parents, poor and uneducated or otherwise, love their children and wouldn’t just hand them off to a stranger. You don’t need to be educated to know that’s not a good idea; you just need to have some common sense, or even just instinct, and a modicum of caring.

  3. John the Revelator October 11, 2009 / 3:57 pm

    “Common sense” is a term begging explication; this too is sorely affected by poverty and ignorance, by privilege and education, is it not? This is not a factory-installed app. As for instinct, it often circumvents caring for others. Self-preservation governs all. But society must punish guilt, no matter its cause.

  4. maureen October 11, 2009 / 8:45 pm

    What possible advantage did the female biological unit (aka “mother”) gain, by telling Social Services her child was still with her?

    Never mind.

  5. Brianna Brawley October 11, 2009 / 9:44 pm

    She got her AFDC and WIC money. I know ppl who there kids don’t live with them at all but the grandma or aunt or who ever they live with brings them over when the social workers come to visit so they think the kids live at the house.

    • maureen October 13, 2009 / 9:04 pm

      I thought as much. Many of the missing young children here seem to have been similar “markers” to keep social workers happy. Aarone Thompson, for one.

  6. Bonny October 19, 2009 / 6:39 pm

    Uh, Brianna, when I was sixteen I dated only older guys, usually in their twenties, as did most sixteen year olds who I knew at the time and even know now. It’s not a big deal. Meaghan is much nicer about your ridiculous comment than I want to be. Keep your opinions to yourself, ESPECIALLY when the website owner/administrator asks everyone to do so. Chill out.

  7. Justin October 20, 2009 / 6:00 am

    Bonnie, when you are talking about dating, are you also advocating that minors under the age of consent should be permitted to have sex with the adults they are dating if there is less than a three year age difference? Or are you talking about the kind of dates where there is no sexual contact (except for some heavy make-out sessions and some over the sweater action when the parents aren’t around) where the girls are chaperoned more often than not?

    I’m not judging. I just want things clarified.

    I don’t have kids, but if I had a daughter who was 14 to 17 wanting to date a guy in his mid 20’s or older, my first instinct would be to bankrupt myself to pay the tuition sending her to an all-girl boarding school in the middle of nowhere. And that would be after decorating my house with the various displays of gelding knives and shotguns I would start collecting for guys who didn’t get the message. A person may love and trust their minor children, but when it comes to sex, then it all goes out the window. When your hormones are going crazy, your common sense is overridden by lust and kids get in a world of trouble for it. A Chief Petty Officer I served with in the Coast Guard once told me that there are two things you can’t undo: You can’t un-kill or un-screw someone (both literally and figuratively), and those two things are the cause of most of the problems people get into. Sexual urges can make even the smartest individuals stupid and few people think their kids can handle those situations. Some can, some can’t. I do think that if you are an emancipated minor, then you should be allowed to be legally sexually active. I don’t know if that is the law or not.

    • Meaghan October 20, 2009 / 11:34 am

      My boyfriend and I were not having sex at that time, and even if we were it would have made no difference — sixteen is the legal age of consent in my state. And we are still together after almost eight years, which ought to tell you something.

      • Justin October 21, 2009 / 12:55 am

        Yes. It tells me you were very fortunate. Most 16 year-old girls who become involved with a man ten years older end up getting badly burned. I’m glad you found a good person.

        But most men over 21 who try to become romantically involved with teenage girls are very predatory and want them because they are inexperenced at life and are easier to manipulate. My sister was one of them, so this colors my view some. She went to college when she was almost 17 and got involved with another student who was about 25 and already had another kid. He was verbally and mentally abusive to her, got her pregnant and dumped her when she was a few weeks from turning 18. My sister was a smart girl, but she was in love with this guy and excused everything he did.

        I’m glad it worked out for you, but I don’t think that is usually the case for most minor girls who get involved with adults.

  8. Meaghan October 21, 2009 / 11:49 am

    My boyfriend is a very good man. My mother hates his guts, but even she had to admit he is a nice person and loves me.

    Justin, you might want to try reading Judith Levine’s book Harmful to Minors: the Perils of Protecting Children from Sex. She proposes that twentysomething men who get romantically involved with teenage girls are actually immature and feel safer with a teen and have more in common with her than with a woman their own age. I think that applies to my boyfriend to a certain extent.

  9. Justin October 22, 2009 / 6:42 am

    Perhaps the hypothesis by the author of that book about twenty-something men who get romantically involved with teenage girls is correct for some men, and possibly that was the motivation of your boyfriend. If that is true, then I don’t believe that automatically would make men like that predators. But everyone has opinions about why things are the way they are. That’s what sells books and gets articles published. However, I still believe that most men who target and pursue underage girls romantically are in fact predators who want someone they can manipulate.

    Whatever the reasons why, I look more at the results. I live in California and here are some statistics about teen pregnancy in this state, which ties into the adults being involved with minors angle. And yes, I know statistics can be misleading and/or be false.

    California has the highest teen birth rate in the U.S.
    Every 8 minutes, a teenager in California has a baby.
    3 of 4 births to high school girls are fathered by adults.
    Men over 25 account for twice as many teen births as boys under 18 years old.
    The Average Age difference between the teen victim and the adult defendant in cases filed by the District Attorney is 7 years, 9 months.
    Men over 20 are responsible for 5 times as many births among junior high school girls.
    In California almost 70% of teen births are fathered by adult men.
    On an average California day 76 teenage girls, 17 & younger, will give birth.
    In 1993 1,572 births in California were to mothers 14 years or younger.
    The rate of sexually transmitted disease among teenage girls is twice that of teenage boys.
    AFDC and Medi-Cal costs for 1 teen pregnancy, birth and 1st year support is $10,000.
    Total costs for teen births to those 17 and younger in 1993 for California were $140 million.

    But, I will check this book out from the library if they have it and give you my opinion after I have read it. I may have some strong opinions about certain things, but I have been known to change my mind.

    • Meaghan October 22, 2009 / 11:02 am

      It is an excellent book. It was actually peer-reviewed, very unusual for a book meant for general audiences.

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