Zachary, Jennifer and Holly Collins

Zachary and Jennifer Collins were abducted by their mother, Holly Collins, in 1994. Zachary was eleven at the time; Jennifer was nine. Their father and stepmother, Mark and Rena Collins, had custody. Last year, the Collins children and their mother were found in the Netherlands. Holly, who now has seven kids by three different men, had received asylum there. In September 2008, Holly returned to the U.S. with Jennifer. Jennifer is now 23, the same age as me. She claims her father severely abused herself, her mother and her brother, and that by kidnapping her and Zachary, Holly was rescuing them. You can read about that in this article. I can’t seem to find out how Zachary is doing now or what he thinks about his parents; he is conspicuous by his absence from all the reports I have located.

Today a friend showed me this blog by Glenn Sacks, which takes a very in-depth examination of the Collins case and provides court documents for readers to look at. Though it’s very long (it took me about 40 minutes to read, and I’m a fast reader), it’s well worth your time to look at. You can also see Holly Collins’s response, and Sacks’s response to Holly’s response.

The evidence clearly shows that Holly Collins is a whack-job who emotionally abused her children and turned them against their father, who was a decent man and a good parent. Almost every single doctor, therapist, and judge involved in the custody dispute concluded this. Holly’s own family did not support her before the abduction, when she sought to deny Mark access to the children. She’s accused practically everyone she knows of abusing her, and each time either there is no evidence, or the evidence contradicts her statements. She claimed her children were chronically and severely ill and took them to legions of doctors, but curiously, when they went to live with their father their medical problems disappeared. She also got the children to make statements against their father that were clearly not true. For instance, Zachary “remembered” Mark punching Holly in the nose and breaking it, when Holly’s nose was in fact broken (accidentally) before Zachary was even born!

It’s absolutely tragic. The children will never get over this. Even if they do eventually have a good relationship with their father, none of them will never regain those twelve lost years.

Holly, of course, has many supporters. I don’t understand why people tend to believe everything an allegedly battered woman or child has to say without bothering to make even a cursory look at the evidence. Of course, many women and children are abused, and it’s very sad. But it’s also very easy to make up false stories, which cheapen the real tragedy of spouse/child abuse. You shouldn’t place a halo on the head of everyone who has a tale of woe.

From what I’ve seen, many people, including people who should know better, are biased in favor of women and against men in domestic disputes. For example, several years ago my brother and his girlfriend got into an argument at their home. No violence took place, but the shouting was loud enough that the neighbors called the police. When the police arrived, they told my brother to get out of the house immediately and spend the night elsewhere, or they would arrest him. My brother pointed out that he was paying rent for the house, his name was the only one on the lease, and his girlfriend had no legal rights to the property. He was told: tough, get out of here anyway. So my brother’s girlfriend spent the night in his house and my brother spent the night on a friend’s couch. I can’t imagine law enforcement acting that way if it was the woman who rented the house and not the man.

But getting back to the Collins case: Holly will never face justice for her monstrous crimes. According to the Minneapolis Star-Tribune, she was charged with parental kidnapping, but the charge was dropped after her return to the U.S. and she pleaded guilty only to contempt of court. She was sentenced to a mere 40 hours of community service and 90 days in jail, but the jail term was stayed, meaning she won’t have to actually serve any time unless she gets in trouble again.

People don’t want to take a close look at this case. It takes a lot of time — as I said, it took me the better part of an hour to read Glenn Sacks’s blog, and it must have taken him much much longer to research, whereas it takes just a few minutes to read the very biased CityNews article. And the truth might make them uncomfortable, might upset their perfect black/white view of the world. I’m convinced that the vast majority of the American public simply doesn’t want to know things, because it would require them to think, and they don’t want to do that.

I can’t think of a story which better illustrates the tragedy and folly of parental abduction than the Collins case. I only hope people besides me and Glenn Sacks will take the time to have a closer look, and not just indiscriminately swallow everything Holly and Jennifer say.

Missing pregnant women

Today I found a Washington Post article from 2005 which stated homicide was the second most common cause of traumatic death for pregnant women. By “traumatic” they mean not natural. Car accidents are the first most common cause. Black women have a seven-times-greater risk than white women, and black women between 25 and 29 have a risk eleven times higher. In all races, women under 20 have the highest risk. Unmarried women are more at risk than married women.

Another article from 2007 says a staggering 20% of pregnant women who die were homicide victims!

It kind of makes sense when you think about it. When a woman becomes pregnant, that means a lot of responsibility for the father of the baby, a burden he may not want. If he’s married to someone else, or if the pregnant woman is under 18 and he may face statutory rape charges (several of the pregnant people on Charley are teen girls; one was only twelve), that just compounds the problem. If he’s married to the pregnant woman, a man could divorce her. But divorces are expensive and take a long time, and he would have to pay child support for the child until it turned 18. For some very sick and selfish people, murder seems like an easy way out. I’m pretty sure that’s what Scott Peterson was thinking when he killed his pregnant wife Laci. But everyone and their dentist knows that story.

With this in mind I had a look at the Charley Project. There aren’t that many pregnant women listed: out of 7,271 missing people, I counted just 81 girls and women who were pregnant or possibly pregnant. In addition, there are two little boys and two little girls who disappeared with their pregnant mothers. Of the missing pregnant women, I could only count four who were almost certainly killed by their significant others. In three of the cases, the man was convicted of murder. No one has faced charges in the fourth case, but it looks like a very strong probable. In addition, I have one child listed who disappeared with his pregnant mom, who was later found murdered. The mother’s married boyfriend is considered a suspect in her murder and in her son’s disappearance, but he hasn’t been charged with anything.

I’m sure these aren’t the only pregnant women listed on my website who were done in by their husbands or boyfriends. Sometimes it looks like the man might have done it, but it’s not a sure thing. Most of the time, though, I just don’t have the information. So many cases on my site suffer from a paucity of detail in spite of all the research I do.

So many of the missing people I have on my site were harmed by their own relatives or lovers or friends; it seems to me that to be safe you’re better off being an orphan recluse. And for god’s sake don’t get knocked up.