I’ve read the book already. I was a little disappointed in how she takes a lot of cheap shots at her step father, Carl. Apparently, he maintained a level of discipline in the household, (e.g., insisting that she brush her teeth after every meal and chew her food with her mouth closed), and she continues to hold a grudge. Yet, she insists that she harbors no hate toward Phil and Nancy Garrido. Granted, the degree of Carl Probyn’s suffering doesn’t compare to the that of Jaycee or her mother, but nevertheless, he had to take a lot of guff from Terry’s family and the Police, and he should be allowed to participate in the healing.
The book is well worth the read though. She gets a little graphic, but not unnecessarily so. I wish she could have provided a little more detail about the telephone call and the reunion. I’ve spent two years trying to imagine what an amazing moment that must have been, but after the Diane Sawyer interview, and the book, I am still left wanting more detail.
I read where Jaycee said a big reason why she never even tried to escape was b/c she hated her stepfather so much and thought he hated her as well. The man tried to rescue her after she was snatched, and was questioned and questioned about his being involved for a long time. And she is way too old to still be pouting about him making her brush her teeth and chew with her mouth closed. I couldn’t get over that level of brattiness in a grown woman who has so many other bigger things to be bitter about.
Well, you have to consider that she didn’t have an opportunity to grow up in the normal way. Her entire adolescence and young adulthood, she didn’t have normal interactions with older adults, peers her own age, anything like that. So she’s probably quite immature in many ways you or I wouldn’t be able to comprehend.
Shawn Hornbeck didn’t think his stepfather hated him, and he couldn’t muster the courage to flee.
Elizabeth Smart loved her father, yet didn’t flee either. On at least one occasion they were approached by a police officer who wanted to look under her veil. She could have shouted out – “It’s me!!!”, but she didn’t. Her captors protested, and the officer relented and left.
Natasha Kampusch was able to escape after 8 years, but that seems to be the exception.
Jaycee’s inability to muster the courage to flee had nothing to do with her stepfather, regardless of any hints otherwise. She didn’t even have an opportunity to flee until she was already the mother of small children. By then, Garrido had her convinced that the world outside of the walls of their home was too scary.
Natascha came from a dysfunctional home. If I recall correctly, the morning she was kidnapped, her mother actually smacked her or something before she set off for school. But all the others you mention came from decent families.
Except, perhaps, Steven. I haven’t heard anything bad about his parents, but it seems to me that happy, healthy homes don’t produce a serial killer.
I should add that Steven Stayner was able to escape from his captor, but that was after his captor kidnapped another boy, It was only at that point, Steven’s empathy for the boy outweighed his fear of fleeing.
Her stepfather was the one looking after her when she was kidnapped, right? I wonder if those complaints are really just a screen for “he allowed me to be kidnapped.” That’s not rational of course, but it would be hard to be rational in a situation like that.
I think Elizabeth Smart’s religious training had a lot to do with why she never resisted. A friend of mine who is Mormon says that in general Mormons are very trusting and naive, and Mormon girls are raised to trust men and do what they ask. Also Elizabeth realy believed her kidnapper would send an angel with a sword after her if she escaped.
Only in Utah would the cops let a veiled girl in public pass without further investigating.
Regards the veil, I don’t think that’s necessarily true. There must be Muslim women in major cities who wear face-covering veils.
(Though probably not many in this country. You may recall France’s controversial law a year or so ago that banned women from wearing the burqa in public. It is disturbing that they felt the need to legislate one’s choice of clothing, but the fact is that the law affected only like 40 women.)
It looks interesting. I also saw “Lost and Found The True Life Story of Jacee Lee Dugard” by John Glatt. But I would rather hear the entire story from Jacee herself rather than from someone who doesn’t know her at all.
I read the John Glatt book as well. The book contains no first-hand information from the family. It is basically a compilation of everything I already knew from browsing news stories on the internet and Keith Morrison’s Dateline episode on the Jaycee story. He lifts quotes from Jaycee’s grade school classmates right out of that Dateline episode.
If you are unfamiliar with the story, or if you have not been following it closely, it is very complete and informative. If you have been following the story, as I have, there is nothing new.
I read the book on my kindle. Yes she certainly slammed her step-father Carl. Alot of step-dads are jerks to their step-kids so who knows if he was really that bad. I was surprised she did not really say anything nice about him.
yup. you all managed to make the story of a girl/woman who surived and overcame the most disgusting thing ever into a story of an ungrateful brat who misjudged her stepfather.
congrats……did you guys miss the part where carl made jaycee eat her dinner in front of the bathroom mirror? is that normal dad behavior? disciplince? what kind of sick pathetic BS is that????
jaycee is a hero and an inspiration and you people make her out to be a spoiled selfish idiot.
so jaycee didnt escape cause she hated carl? really? what?!!? could it be she was locked in a shed for 7 or 8 years and only allowed ‘freedoms’ when she had two babies and was nearly impossible to make a run for it? how about the fact she thought she was protecting other children by taking the abuse herself?
and carlk…….what else do you need to know that she didnt cover? be glad she had the strength to share any of her story.
oh……and somehow you all convienently missed how she used money from the 20 million dollar settlement to start a foundation for families like own, and is using part of her book sales for that as well.
she is a beacon of hope for the lost, the abused the kidnapped the hepless. since this site is ALLEDGEDLY about that…….i would think you people would give her more credit.
I Should be happy that you guys didnt spend 40 post talking about her teeth again, i guess
about the phone call they were obviously both so excited its probably a jamble in there brains…….jaycee remembers saying ‘come quick!” and “i love you!’ and hearing her mom says to her people at work ‘my daughters been found!” terry for her part, the only part they played in the diane sawyer interview was her telling the fbi man on the phone ‘dont do this to me, this isnt funny!” when she thought the call was a sick jokei dont know why they edited out more of what terry remembers, which im sure she does. oh and ‘im coming baby, im coming!”
as for the reunion i thought she did enough with the hugging, and crying. i thought the part where jaycee tells her ‘you smell the same’ is funny cause terry says ‘its the smoke’. reminds me of the people magazine article from 1991 where terry said she smoke packs upon packs of cigerretes the day she was kidnapped…..i guess full circle lol. and then the stuff with them looking at the moon the same night and thinking of each other right before they were found was great.
I’ve watched that portion of the Diane Sawyer interview numerous times, and I still get a rush of emotion each time.
They did touch on that moment a bit, but I felt like they could have provided a lot more detail.
For two years, I have tried to visualize that moment of the phone call. What exactly did the detectives say to Terry when she answered the phone? They didn’t discuss that at all.
We know that she replied “Don’t do this to me. it’s not funny”, but I knew that from Carl Probyn’s interviews days after Jaycee was found. How did she transition from “this is a bad joke” to “this is really true!!”? We know that Terry quizzed Jaycee about details that only Jaycee would know. But they didn’t discuss that at all either in the Diane Sawyer interview or in the book.
About the reunion, they didn’t discuss that at all in the Sawyer interview, and only bits and pieces in the book. She talked about standing at the threshold of the room in which Terry was waiting and hesitating. And when she finally entered, there was instant recognition even though she had forgotten what her mother looked like. She talked about the hugs and the smell (not of the cigarettes but of Terry’s own unique scent), and the talk about how the moon reminded them of each other. But I was left wanting more. It may just be that it’s impossible to provide a narrative that adequately conveys what had to have been such an amazing visual.
I also would have liked to know how she explained her real identity to her daughters, although I can understand why that might be a personal private thing that she wouldn’t want to publicly discuss.
You obviously read more into my comments than what I had put there.
I found the book very inspiring and I commend Jaycee for all that she was able to overcome. It was her story that got me interested in the subject of missing persons, and I have spent quite a bit of my spare time focused on that topic in the last two years.
I just didn’t think the bit about making her watch herself eat in the mirror was very alarming. Different people have different approaches to teaching manners to their children. He took a more strict approach than most, but I don’t equate it with emotional abuse. I think it would have been much worse if he was to sit quietly and let the bad eating habits become ingrained.
I don’t see one word where anyone here alleged that. Nobody here said that she blames him for the kidnapping. It was Don Regis-Bilar (the Lake Tahoe journalist) who alleged that, and said I think he is a dirtbag for continuing to stick by that allegation even after it became crystal clear that Carl Probyn had no connection to the Garridos.
Actually, she never actually said in the book that she didn’t want to escape because of Carl. But she did say that she thought that Carl was happier that she was gone, and that one of the many things that she worried about was whether Carl was still with her mother.
In what was otherwise a very inspiring story of healing, I just thought that it would have been better to not take so many gratuitous swipes at Carl Probyn.
“Actually, she never actually said in the book that she didn’t want to escape because of Carl.”
CarlK90245 did you read the grand jury transcripts? when asked why she didn’t try to escape she says:
“I felt like I didn’t have anywhere else to go. I knew my stepdad. He, I always felt like he didn’t like me…that he would, they would be happier or they would be better off without my being there at home,”
Despite what she said in the grand jury, I doubt that she would have tried to escape had there been no Carl Probyn, or if Carl had not acted the way that he did toward her.
She behaved the same way that other children (e.g., S. Hornbeck, E. Smart, et.al.) behaved under similar circumstances.
She had not even the slightest opportunity to escape until after her daughter was born, and for several years thereafter, it wouldn’t have been logistically feasible to take two young children and run anyway. And she wasn’t about to go anywhere without taking her two children with her. By the time that the children were old enough and she wasn’t under 24-hour lockdown, her old life had become a distant memory.
Garrido had her convinced (1) the world was too scary outside of the confines of their home, and (2) that he was all-knowing and was always aware of what she was up to. She had access to the internet, and never once Googled her own name. On one occasion, she even saw a news promo discussing her case in the context of the Polly Klass murder, and didn’t try to watch the news segment.
I don’t doubt that she rationalized her inaction by convincing herself that her mother and stepfather didn’t love her anyway. But I don’t believe it.
i dont think she ever believed her mom didnt love her.
i would like to point out, rationally this time, that her perspective in the book about carl, 90 percent of the time, is coming from how she felt during whatever time period that is based in. like on the day she was kidnapped or on christmas 93 (even i admit that was REALLY harsh
i also read that horrendous article by blier or whatever the pond scums name is. i quite frankly told him in the comments ection (which he liked to post on) to put up or shut up…..never heard another word from him.
he never had any evidence cause there was never any to begin with.
he’s just a weasal looking to save his reputation that he destroyed himself. and if he hurts jaycee or terry along the way thats fine with him.
i thought the thing about the mirror, however, was way beyond anything i could ever think of a good parent/step parent doing. it feels like he wanted to humiliate her to me. i know a little about emotional and mental abuse from having gone thru it myself, i remember having a siilar thing happen to me. i dont think it was right then either.
would like to add it was heartwrenching in her journals when she would say something like ‘i wonder what my mom is doing. i hope she’s happy wherever she is’. we, as the reader, know that terry would never be happy until jaycee came home.